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- MBTI
- INFPishy
What if you were raised in a traditional home where the male was the dominant personality/breadwinner and the female gender roles were more submissive, subservient, or docile. Consider the scenario in which the father was strict, and responsible for the discipline and mother was the more lenient and typically more supportive and sensitive. Usually, in a situation like this, you learn to be dependent and submissive, and not think outside of what was directed or taught. And in some cases, you fail to develop a independent and confident sense of self.
Of course, this unequal balance of power in relationships isn't healthy, and can be abusive or destructive depending on how far it's taken.
So when you've been raised with this model of relationships, you sometimes develop a similar mindset, and (in many cases unconsciously) seek for partners who'd instinctively reflect those same understanding of gender roles you've come to adapt and accept based on your family model.
Question, how do you break the cycle? How do you develop an approach and perspective on relationships which is healthy, balanced, and equal when the model you've observed most of your life, and in your experiences fits this dominant/submissive pattern?
As someone socialized to think, act, or behave so that your personality is more emotionally and socially submissive, how do you break that pattern so that you don't attract the dominant/paternal father figure but instead develop a healthy balance of power in a relationship?
Of course, this unequal balance of power in relationships isn't healthy, and can be abusive or destructive depending on how far it's taken.
So when you've been raised with this model of relationships, you sometimes develop a similar mindset, and (in many cases unconsciously) seek for partners who'd instinctively reflect those same understanding of gender roles you've come to adapt and accept based on your family model.
Question, how do you break the cycle? How do you develop an approach and perspective on relationships which is healthy, balanced, and equal when the model you've observed most of your life, and in your experiences fits this dominant/submissive pattern?
As someone socialized to think, act, or behave so that your personality is more emotionally and socially submissive, how do you break that pattern so that you don't attract the dominant/paternal father figure but instead develop a healthy balance of power in a relationship?
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