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I think the other thing is the lack of leadership with my current husband. Desperately wanting someone who will take the lead and protect me, maybe even control me a little. I'm so tired of making all the business and financial decisions - and really, I'm not very good at it! Hey maybe...

Marriage counseling - yes we have considered it. We are trying to set that up. The husband is so willing to try - and we talk. But everything I tell him he takes as a rule. Even with the best of efforts it's all logic. I'm not sure he'll ever connect with his heart, and if he can't find it...

Perhaps you are right... hence my turmoil. He IS a good man and father. He's an INTJ (not that that's a crime or anything!) and everything about him is buried deep within. His feelings, thoughts, emotions. It's like being married to a brick wall and it's very lonely. It's not about romance...

I'm an INFJ in love with an ENFP. We get along great except on certain issues I just can't seem to let go of. I'm fairly well off financially, and he isn't right now, yet for me to "pay for a man's expenses" just seems like the ultimate in human injustice. It isn't right, it gauls me, makes...

Lately I cry a lot! I'm in a marriage with 4 kids and in love with a man who isn't my husband. I feel empty when I'm away from the lover. But the GUILT won't let me leave husband of 17 years. Every where I turn is guilt and I can't be happy. People tell you you'll destroy the kids...

Ah... one partner in highschool one partner through marriage for 17 years and one partner now who is 24 years old than me! And he is the best one yet. We do get some strange looks though...!

Hey I have this intense desire to be accepted too! To the extent I'm always making decisions based on what others think, or how I think they would want me to respond. This makes it difficult to operate a company, when I'm constantly wanting my staff's approval. I rely heavily on a strong...

True, I definitely am a big believer in keeping busy! I homeschool the four kids which means they are always around, I take them to all their church and sports activities, keep the house clean, do the shopping, the meals - oh and run a property management company. I'm also active as a realtor...

Wow Emily, I can tell you are in INTJ just like he is! You throw out a logical response that's critical and scathing. I have done everything he and the children have wanted me to do for the past 17 years. I go through all the motions. If you understood us, you'd know that's what INFJs do...

Hey, Just wanted to jump on and say how refreshing this entire thread has been. I have been going through the motions of married with children for 17 years now, and have always felt something was wrong with me. I ALWAYS feel empty. I never fit in. I don't fit in with the church or even my...