Recent content by sommerfugl

What is the reason why you think there can never be a stronger friendship (or relationship)? I am working on recovering from my CPTSD and PTSD, so when I manage to do that, there will not be the problems for him where I demand explanations from him and by that drain his energy.

But that is just it. I don't think anything will change. That is not my intention. Yes, indeed when I am at my worst of CPTSD I do want more contact with him, and I miss him more than words can describe. But when I am able to think outside my CPTSD bubble, I am not intending to change my mindset...

What I think is interesting about his fb likes aren't the likes in themselves, but the change in behavior. Last time the like was accompanied by pm's and a twitter follow. Now he has done that again. Despite all the confusion, I may be wrong but it looks like he wants to show me subtly that he...

Thank you for sharing this. I understand now that you were just trying to help and I appreciate that. Your way of handling it, is maybe a good way for you as an F-type. As a T-type, I just need to logically understand it and I'm good to go. My first bf is very manipulative and controlling. I...

I struggle ridiculously hard with any kind of relation because I have cptsd. Not just those I am romantically interested in, but also friends, family and others I meet here and there. Does that mean I should just live in solitude because I get really insecure about people's intentions and liking...

I have been much more expressive on the feely part when I have known that the partner felt the same way about me. With this INFJ i have been and still am very unsure about how he feels about me so I have been very reluctant to show my true feelings. It was till the point that once when I think...

I want to reply more to the other replies above but don't have time right now. Anyway, I wrote him a message today and he responded immediately. We have discussed to see each other again and he said "it will be good to see you :-)". I am so happy about this. He asked about how I am doing these...

In the western world we could think that being religious is a question of whether you believe or not in the theology. But non-western religions are lifestyles. There are rules and rituals to follow every day. The INFJ and I don't follow all those rules except a very few. And those few are...

That is possible indeed. As I didn't know how he felt about me, I felt at some points very tense and self-conscious. I am terrified of getting rejected in general so I tend not to share how I truly feel about him and so I don't relax around him. But then again, he didn't either so... This fear...

I keep thinking this too due to the lack of and short messages. But that doesn't explain why he AFTER the convo and 6 months of avoiding came to hug me holding his arms all around me and tightly for what felt like an eternity. A beautiful one. It doesn't explain why he would tell me things he...

The time when I mentioned to him briefly that something happened in my childhood, he only replied "Don't worry. It is in the past". So it didn't seem like he was interested in talking about it. Well, it was in a text because at that point we no longer lived in the same country. In between all...

Of course I am sincere. It's not in the nature of an ENTP to be dishonest in general and above all when it comes to people we care about. It is possible he doesn't believe I was sincere though as I didn't give a lot of backup info for why I take the responsibilities that I do. I only explained...

I've had a few days to think about this. Thank you so much for answer. It really means a lot. I read on some other posts where INFJs said that if I send him an apology it will be appreciated but that I should not expect an answer; that once an INFJ has made up his mind it is hard to change...

I agree with all of you - @Gale, @Pin and @Chickensoup - that unless he actually brings real friendship actions, I should just ignore the small gestures. That being said, I really want to understand what is/was going on. If he had a moment of being sentimental, and therefore went through all my...

Gale After reading my last post, do you still think I should not "respond" to him in any way? Except for the feelings/relationship stuff, he is generally considerate and kind. He has helped me a lot, also after that convo. As he had feelings for me that he could not share with me, it might have...