Recent content by Reverie

It’s in my nature to be reserved. This means to not burden people with my problems when I don’t know what to say, when I’ve already talked quite a bit, or when they seem to be having too much fun to make them stop and look at an ugly situation. This means I don’t enjoy giving much of my personal...

I don't believe in "tests" in relationships. If you have to force a situation in order to gauge someone's intentions, you're doing it wrong (not to mention, you're quite possibly destroying a lot of trust, too). Far better to simply not make decisions that you're not confident about when it...

If I had children I might have said that being a mother is my most important role, but that's not the case. Everyone around me is capable of feeding themselves and not getting marbles stuck up their noses.

How am I supposed to decide? Even the more transient roles like "employee" are important. I have to be a good employee to feed myself, to not let down the people who turn to us for help, and to show respect to an employer who's respectful to me.

Asked this to a friend and he wanted to know what kind of puppy?

My least favorite part of dating was how much I was expected to give of myself. I'm not talking time-wise or emotionally, but when it came to sex (not happening on the third date no matter how hot you are, sorry, goodbye) and my tolerance for bullshit. I think the way to know if we have a...

An alternative way of viewing what I know of myself and how it compares to others.

The only type I'm certain of is ENTP.

I try to see where my friends are coming from when they cross my standards and what it says about them as a person on a larger scale. The immediate reaction doesn't take into account their motivations, their stressors, and everything else about the situation. To put it simply, if I didn't...

Whingeybum? xD

I look at the wider context of their behavior towards me when judging. As an example that's not about gifts, there's no strings attached in asking for my Facebook or other contact information. There are strings attached when very friendly men I don't know or have just met ask (not strings, but...

I don't think this is the time to be thinking of "anyone else," anyway.

What a strange concept. How can something mislead me about myself? I knew what I wanted to do in preschool and showed strong signs of all my future pursuits, values, and beliefs prior to high school. They were in my play, in my friendships, in my fantasies, in my writing, in my family... how...

This sounds like an exercise in futility. Changing an emotion-based belief with reason? :m083:

I know, it's almost like they think I'm going to talk their ear off if I find them or something...