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You are explaining Object Relations theory more or less. OP, you should look up Object Relations. It might give you some info your looking for.

Hope your doing okay tonight. Thinking of you. :hug:

My self esteem and self worth is largely determined by outside situations and experiences with other people. For example, if a relationship is going well, my self esteem will be pretty high, but if it's not I can become more self critical and self conscious. I think that I generally have a...

Paul Wenz This makes me feel a lot better. Knowing that this stuff happens repeatedly to others too but they were able to find someone in the end and it was the ex's who couldn't commit that are now single. It's very reassuring. I think that you are right about people getting overwhelmed by...

Paul Wenz I'm sorry that happened to you. I still think about my ex's from a long time ago too. Yva thank you. I wish someone had given me that advice from a young age. I will be sure to take that with me in the future. I really can't go through this again. Angela, I'm sorry you are going...

Thank you just me, Chalti, invisible, PintoBean This support is really helping me get through this. I feel so alone.

Thanks! SeanSquared

Gist thank you. I know about demisexuality and although I resinate with some aspects of it, I wouldn't characterize myself that way as I am able to be sexually attracted to someone before I have emotional investment. How it works for me though, is once I am physically intimate with someone that...

What's really getting me is the motive behind it all. I would get no satisfaction out of dating someone consistently if I didn't have feelings for them. Was the sex really that important? It just seems like a lot of investment for something he viewed as casual. I literally have no desire for...

Thanks you Dragon, INFJ16, and Pleiades. INF16, I received your message but can't reply because your box is full. The first picture loaded but the second one wouldn't load. Thank you for that! I appreciate it.

I'm going through (yet another) heartbreak right now and having a really hard time. Although the relationship wasn't long, I let myself become emotionally attached and vulnerable quickly. I felt like I could trust this person because he seemed honest and humble from the start. Turns out he...

I got 22 and I've known I was an HSP since high school (I'm 28 now). My therapist gave me the book when I was 16 and everything finally made sense! :)

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