Recent content by olias

We've been doing that. We went to VT for a week prior to the move (in anticipation of it being stressful) and we have a weekend at a B&B the weekend after I get back. These feel like short term solutions though.

I think we posted at the same time. See my reply. BTW, I am incapable of *not* looking behind the surface of things to the fundamental causes. And she hates that right now. She's so strongly Si that I think my Ni really makes her feel naked and vulnerable without me having to say anything...

I *know* what the dynamic is. That's not the problem. I just don't know what to *do* about it. I have no toolset for a person who's so strongly SJ. All my life skills are for NJ. No exaggeration, we're like bizarro world reflections of each other sometimes. What's good and helpful for me...

INTJ or not, I'll take good suggestions where I can get it. ;-) I *know* it's not about fixing things. This is not news to me. But god help me if it's murder for me to keep my mouth shut as she goes on and on about something that is so clearly within her power to change. At first I did just...

OK INFJ's, I'm here to seek your supernatural feeling abilities AND your ability to more or less identify with 3/4 of my way of thinking (read: phrase things in a way I can understand them.) I'm male, INTJ. I'm dating female, ESTJ. She is seriously in the midst of a inferior Fi grip right...