Recent content by mintsoda

Does he see the problem with the physical nature of his anger? If he does and is willing to seek some professional guidance, I would encourage it. I think you were wise to distance yourself. Even if you are open to possibly getting back together in the future, I wouldn't suggest as much to...

So strange. Definitely hug my family. All the time (when they're around). I used to be a big hugger-of-friends as well. I was previously in a long-term relationship with someone who was a serious hug monkey, and I kindof destroyed him when I ended that relationship. Since then, I have a...

I do appreciate everyone's responses. Though it's likely that we'll be living together anyway. Primarily because it solves both of our needs in a very practical sense, despite the fact that it may cause a fair amount of emotional discomfort for me in the near and/or long term. My hope is that...

This is true, and clearly the greatest concern. I'm not trying to get back together, though I would never object. In some ways, because there would be no line of retreat, I think we would be less likely to get together again while living together. Despite my silly girlishness here, I'm fairly...

That is all very "logical" and it may even be a good decision to back away slowly and run for the hills. But this person is essentially a part of me. If we do not live together, it will be more difficult for us to spend time together, because it's such a hassle to travel to see each other and...

Beautifully put. This is absolutely true for me, as well. Generally, if I bother to make small-talk with someone who I have no obvious reason to speak to...that's flirting. Although I have a smile for everyone and will always respond positively to a cheerful greeting, I rarely initiate...

I have a fun story. I was recently in a brief relationship with an INTP who I have known for nearly 10 years. The first 2 years, we were intimately involved. The later 6, we occasionally exchanged fantastic emails. This last year, we are in the same locale again and hang out or email...

Amazing. Minus the drama, I feel exactly the same way. Very confident, almost too confident, in my status at work. But as soon as we step outside, the egg turns upside down and I feel like the awkward kid in the corner again.