Recent content by kotachi

I guess what I'm asking if it makes me a terrible person to just block him everywhere and end the relationship that way. at this point I don't even want to tell him I'm "leaving". Seriously I am NEVER The type of person to do this, to just disappear and ghost on someone who I have a real...

thanks you guys. what is the most heartbreaking about this is that I spent a significant amount of time, money, and energy to visit him halfway across the world recently. leaving me broke. i also spent a huge amount of time and energy trying to make him the perfect birthday present to mail. and...

The Silent Treatment. My (very infj) partner consistently uses this as a way of dealing with anger (towards me). Every time I try to explain why this is so hurtful to our relationship he blows up and gets even more angry...extending the silent treatment...(and mostly refusing to elaborate why...

thank you guys... I feel so grateful that there are people on the internet who are willing to lend and ear and some support. it means a lot. thanks again.

I guess in terms of what I WANT right now, honesty, I just want a normal job where I can save money and not be broke and disrespected all the time. I've been poor and stressed out for a long time. But then I feel the "stress" of "YOU NEED TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL NOW BEFORE YOU GET TOO OLD". But...

Hello all!! I'm losing sleep over this.. 24 year old almost 25. enfp. Art has always been a huge passion of mine, but I was scared out of it in high school. My current situation is that I am teaching English abroad part time (around 20 hours). I'm currently trying to study graphic design and...

fuck. im sorry. i know i shouldnt generalize. but i am just so sick of this pattern. i dont know what i do that attracts infj to use me and lose me and it fucking hurts.

really i just feel used. i dont understand why an infj would have dragged that out so long. if he actually cared about my feelings....for three months i'd thought we'd get back together only to be told upon getting home that he "knew from the beginning he didn't want to date me anymore but was...

Yeah. Youre right. I was actually doing fine and then his one little text spurred me to think about this all again. And stupidly I did respond. Perhaps it sounds extreme but I just blocked his number on Verizon for my own peace of mind. I don't want more drama and need to protect myself from...

Bmatt, the dynamic with us was very similar. in the beginning of the relationship he was very depressed and i tried my best to cheer him up, cook for him, let him hang out at my apt to work because he felt lonely... but it kept feeling like he was just taking all the affection i had to offer and...

thanks everyone. what is so distressing about this is that I *did* have a second chance, but then i ruined it with my truly juvenile, crazy and selfish behavior upon moving back. and i dont have anything to blame for it except myself but it is even beyond me how i could have acted in such a way...

thanks all for your advice. i just got word back from a paid internship i applied to - i got it! amazing how much having something good happen in your life can help you feel better. my question though still.. i mean, at this point has it gone past the point of no return? should i never contact...

"When we say it is us not you, I can honestly say ninety nine percent of the time that is exactly what we mean." that's what he had initially said, multiple times in different ways. but i was so convinced that it was something i'd done/freaking out that I pushed him until he finally said he...

Once an INFJ guy has broken up with you, is it possible to win him back? How do you do it? Is it possible, once they've told you they no longer feel attracted except physically/don't feel they are in a psychological place to be in a serious relationship because they are going abroad for a...