Recent content by KorJax

I disagree. I'm a guy for what it's worth. But I've found things have worked out far better in my interactions with others and myself in a situation the more confidently compassionate and genuine I am. I think the key isn't being a bitch, but simply being assertive & confident. Being bitchy...

I think it changes, but not necessarily goes away. There is idealism to be found in everything. Maybe I lose the idealism in big picture stuff, maybe my ideals crumble for people I feel close to. But instead I gain more idealism in what I expect out of myself, or a specific task at hand. Or my...

The optimist in me thinks that second chances always can happen. The realist recognizes that if you had to shut someone out, you had to do it for a good reason, and that a LOT of INFJ's I've read online who have tried to reconnected had it end in disaster. So I don't really know. I don't see...

This really depends on what stage of life I'm in, haha Right now? Cautious optimism. I'm an optimist at heart, to a fault. If the first date was really casual, I might be interested in seeing how far the second goes, but ultimately be comfortable with another casual date. Likely more nervous on...

I don't know. I can see myself in this situation. Keep in mind we are only hearing one side of the story. There have been several times where I've been really into someone but reserved about pushing things because of external factors. It really isn't a black and white "LOL I'M EITHER 100% INTO...

A hard lesson I've learned this past year. I've always been very open, as a means to get over the fact that I simply don't make a lot of friends and want to "skip the bullshit". When I was growing up I had a big issue with being entirely too closed to everyone, which meant that I never could...

Now I want to buy her book.

Been trying out cultivating mindfulness and meditation every day for a couple of months now. It ties into awareness a lot, and I think it helps. I'm still very new at it though, and have lingering problems in the air. I feel much better and more "secure" in my day to day, feels like I have...

Shit you mean I'm going to be like this well into my 30's? :( I relate. Kind of the same thing going with me. Maybe not as broad (i.e. I don't get it for professors/fictional characters/etc), but I def get into the habit of being obsessive about one person for a long while, even if we aren't...

Take a break. You can be friends again, but that time isn't now. INFJ's more than anyone else I know love to be friends with anyone they've ever had more than a passing connection with. My 3.5 year INFJ/ENFP/probably-actually-a-sensor EX (different results every time he took it lol) broke up...

Because we are engineers and scientists at heart, fascinated and innately in tune with complex systems - but our systems are people and relationships rather than machines and scientific theory. Also quite frankly, we're way better at observing outside of us than inside :D

Really like this post, full of solid advice. I know grudges are bad, but a lot of the time it is hard to articulate why or convince myself to not hold them. Reminds me of this quote, about anger. I think it relates. "Of the sevendeadly sins, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your...

Well, I gave it time. Officially cut him off. Deleted contact, logs, removed on twitter, etc. I feel like shit. I'm shaking. Can't eat. God this is hard. The first person I've felt genuinely close to in years I had to cut off like this. It feels hard to imagine me trusting so easily in the...

Again, my experience with an ENFP talking here. But I do think you might be expecting too much too soon. I get the impression that NFP's really don't like the idea of anything that suggests committing or taking things too seriously, but it doesn't mean they don't really really like you or that...

I think this is common for some people. I have an ENFP friend I was into for a while. It was hard to get into contact with him at all for periods of time, which made me question where I stood as a friend (or more). Other friends noticed he could also kind of just be hard to get ahold of for a...