Recent content by kkstevens

It's all silver lining! all of us have saboteurs; the important thing is being aware of them and working to make them less present. :-)

That is skill development, not changing type. If you really want that it is surely doable, albeit potentially requiring a lot of work. The "I" in introversion is about where your energy comes from, not how you perform. I'm a public speaker and those who superficially know me would never guess...

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Thank for all the well wishes and encouragement in this thread! :<3:

Wow, this took off fast! I'm not an expert in the method but have been facilitated personally and been external to other people's facilitation. With that in mind, a few bits of context to help with this: 1. The horse has left the barn already on this, but with this and other assessments I...

Pleaser is my #3. It seems a natural for INFJ.

That may be the net out. I wonder if this is more common in INFJ males than other types? For example, ~70% of LGBTQ+ people type as N despite N's being ~30% of the overall population (source: The Myers-Briggs Company). I wonder if kinks, especially those that flip expected gender roles, are thus...

That's a really interesting take. At a minimum, that's in the mix. Because, yes, this is something I wasn't willing to even ask for directly, or at least not directly more than once, out of fear of embarrassment. Yes, acceptance is surely part of it. Thank you. Well, my auxiliary extraverted...

Enjoying the act certainly may be preference. Being taken to some transcendent place that has significantly shifted my global mood and disposition while transforming my relationship to my life is that part I'm gaping at. I'm not trained on Freud beyond sort of a uni 101 level so not qualified...

Thanks for responding. :-) Not fears, surely. But I understand myself and the world incredibly well. And this doesn't make sense to me. Based on past studies of gender, both genetic and socially constructed, the closest thing that my feelings and the impacts on me seem to be like is how the sex...

Trigger warning: includes detailed discussion of consensual sexual acts I'm a 40-something INFJ male. Never been attracted to men, but at a young age discovered my prostate and enjoyed manual stimulation during masturbation. More something I did when I was younger, but I've had the desire to...