Recent content by Julia

I've always had difficulty establishing relationship and even friendships. I was typically too comfortable in my imaginary world. I would see someone I admired, longed for a connection, but never knew exactly how to make it happen. I was mostly in settings that were not compatible, and I think...

That really happens for you? You come across differently online, but I can relate to it as well. I lived in one small town where a lady started telling everyone I was fragile. I am almost always tougher than people expect. I would say I am tougher than average, but I'm not certain by how much. I...

I can relate to the OP. My introversion can make some people uncomfortable. I found that some people are offended if you don't feel comfortable around them. That creates a negative loop for me because feeling forced to be comfortable makes me even more introverted. One-on-one I think I can...

About a decade ago I was moderate/non-political and had shouting in my ears from both sides leading up to the election. At the time it reinforced my non-political position because there was such a flood of fear-based parroting-style information being reiterated from news media. In the context...

If you feel like you can still be friends without expectations, that would be ideal. My only two serious relationships have been with INTPs, and so while there are differences, people of that type tend to be analytical, sometimes cautious in relationships, and don't respond well to pressure...

Rigorous personal honesty stands out to me here. I think people are quite private as well, but there have been posts where people show a level of personal awareness and honesty about strengths and flaws that stands out. Often online people construct personae, so you don't often see those...

I don't think the figures for "music, drama, and fine arts" is taking into account the free-lancers. I think they are only calculating based on those hired by institutions. Those figures are way beyond what freelancers tend to make.

^^This. Wow, that was eloquently stated, tovlo. I sometimes avoid social situations because it is difficult to keep track of etiquette. My intentions are to understand and be kind to people, but there are some ritualistic exchanges that are stressful to me when they start. I prefer to sit...

I agree that chivalry is based on a number of underlying sexist assumptions. It doesn't offend me though partly because I'm not easily offended especially if the intentions are well meaning. If a person is trying to show respect I appreciate it in any guise it comes in. I am a feminist and will...

I would definitely leave if there were no children, because for all i know there is a just as great a person for them as there could be for me out there. Why should two people be unhappy paired in a world with six billion people? That doesn't make any sense to me. The issue of children...

The ability to be self-sufficient, to be able to negotiate working and keeping a place to live. Also, the ability to be a source of support for others.

It's a horrible feeling to fall into a negative rut like that. I have one trigger for intense upset and that is physical rejection. One overall principle I know is that if something is to be taken away, there needs to be something to replace it. It is like when a child is running with a...

I have a strong attachment/detachment dichotomy. I tend to have rather strong empathy, but also feel like I view the world through glass. I also have a hard time attaching in some relationships, but can also get deeply attached to people. An example from work includes my interaction with a...

"You have no hard edges"

Thanks for this contribution, slant. I always appreciate reading your posts. Those are great links. I try to just take people however they come, bickering or not, but must confess how incredibly much I appreciate laid back, socially relaxed people who don't get all intolerant over small things...