Recent content by Iryna

Sorry to hear about your awful experience! That INTJ guy seems to be a real bas*ard, very sick personality. My experience with "my" INTJ was nothing like that: he's one of the kindest and most patient people I've ever known. Revenge, unfaithfulness, or manipulations - these attributes are so...

All in all, he'd better off me. He'll find many more interesting communication partners, - as far as I can witness, he continues using that website for finding language partners. And I had better have relationships with books, not with people.

I feel confused and scared. I felt hopeful at some point that after everything calmed down between us, we were thinking, re-evaluated something maybe, and maybe will be able to maintain something good between us, no matter how to call it. That we would be able to learn how to behave towards each...

Some updates on my situation, if someone's interested still :) So, we continued to communicate with him. Almost instantly after a "break-up", he wrote to me. And since then he continued to do so. At first I thought it was some kind of politeness, to check up on me how I was doing, - general...

I can add here that for INFJs it might be hard to let people back in after ruptures in relations. If not mended as soon as possible in an open and genuine way, these small and big "break-ups" may be too much to handle. Try to be there for her, not pushing it, show your care and attention to her...

I wish to have more acceptance for life and other people, to have much more nice moments shared with beloved ones. Happy New Year to all you people! :smiley:

There is a theory about knowing where to stop looking for a better one out there and start to "make it", in Hannah Fry's book "The mathematics of love". I can't say that I agree with her points, but here it is for contemplation: " As any mathematically minded person will tell you, it’s a fine...

No, however much I'd want the trust being back in the relations..

Yes, I believe so. Usually I'm highly demanding of myself, and I'm comfortable with the view of myself as a reliable person. So yeah, letting people down who have counted on me in specific situations is something what I'd not like doing. However, I don't care about other people's expectations of...

Thank you, I am feeling better a bit :kittyhug: Going to search through different threads then, maybe get to know the members a little better. I used to visit INTJ forum to find my answers and surprisingly found there many issues "live" being discussed by many active users. After all, there is...

:blush: Thanks, I hope for the best! Yes, I've been trying to find some interesting conversations going on here, as distraction from my situation. Maybe, I could be helpful to someone :smiley: Though, it seems to me that there are not so many people active on this forum... Why so? Can't believe...

Thank you, - it's good to be reminded of that I'm not alone going through all this stuff and questions.. I believe it's right - I felt bad after making agreements with him.. Though, not because I felt as if he was having his own way on me, no. Just bad because it felt as if I was dragging it out...

Eh yes, sort of beating myself up for it :pensive: I want to acknowledge my own faults, so that will never happen again. Well, yes - I told him in the open and direct way how he could fulfill my needs. He didn't say that he couldn't - instead he said that he'd try and he did so. I don't know...

in reply to the first piece of your post - exactly! What I needed was a display of his feelings to me, if there were any, in understandable way for me. I prefer to know where I stand and dislike uncertainity. But, as you pointed out, it's important when it comes naturally from the person. He did...

I had to Google it first :sweat: Gosh, he is nothing like that.