My view on this is somewhere along the lines of this excellent mind-bending documentary series. You have to watch the whole thing to get the punch-line in the end.
YouTube- BBC - The Secret Life of Chaos (2010) (Part 1/6)
In essence (I think), everything really is chaos but from all this...
yeah, I can just sit down and 'feel' the mood, but it does not mean that it's easy to talk to people. on the contrary, it's harder just because you know exactly what to say to get a certain effect. and yeah, it's not about mind-reading - it's just noticing small things.