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It depends on the situation/moment. When I am out somewhere in nature then I tend to enjoy the moment, taking it all in, the beauty, the serenity. I also tend to (mostly) be in the moment when I am out with friends, but that took a bit of training. When I was younger I tended to get lost in...

Thanks for sharing. I know what you mean about being hung up on a fantasy. Even though I care about my ex, it is more the memory of who he was (when we dated) that I love, if that makes sense. Feelings are complicated things. We've been friends for a year now and things had been fine last...

I just re-read your previous post too and I think I have a better understanding now. Being supportive to him will inevitably draw us both into a deeper emotional connection, whether we initially wanted to or not...and that's not right since he is married. So even if he is looking to me for...

It's not that I want to be involved with him. He's married. That fact is very clear to me, both on a rational and emotional level. I don't want to date him. My question was more how can I get past these feelings and continue to be friends with him. But I see what you mean about getting...

You mean that a friendship is not possible?

It was a painful breakup that took a long time to heal from.

You're right, my first impulse was to help, and I already did, by giving him some advice. I don't see myself doing much more than that. I understand about putting myself in his wife's shoes - the last thing I want to do is to come between them. I guess my main question is how to stop having...

Not recently, but I've dated many guys after him. I agree with you that I should date, if only as a distraction.

Hi everyone, I recently found this website and it's been great learning that there are people out there like me. I don't know if this is an INFJ problem or just a human problem but I really need to talk about it because it's consuming my mind. About a year ago, I re-connected with an...