Recent content by Caneman

tendency to over-think things, if they would just go with their gut instinct and bypass their complex mind they are better off most of the time imo simple people with complex minds!

maybe... very complicated person the INFJ, but knowing what i know now i would have to say yes I would because it is very rewarding... but to the naive non-INFJ pursuer i would say run away if you have the chance unless you are willing to put in the time to understand them at a deep and...

^^^ thank you, hits home with me... my wife is not quite there yet but i have faith in the goodness that is in her that she will be there too

^^^ thanks for sharing the video, it was interesting but Mr. Sagan and I have completely different world views so it didn't really click with me, sorry... on 'getting the connection', I talked to my wife about it and what I have learned so far and she was very excited about it and what I shared...

when you have a gift like that you just believe everyone thinks that way too... until you realize this isn't true at all and most people are going to be several steps behind you in their thinking... most people who have gifts dont think they are any big deal because it comes so naturally and...

i tell my INFJ wife that somewhat frequently... "hey, you are not present with me!" I used to think she was 'absent minded', but this is a much different concept than the INFJ retreating to their secret place and not being present (outwardly anyway)... I get this now, but back in the day this...

I understand why the INFJ has a tendency to hold back, related to being hypersensitive... your insights are usually several steps ahead of most people and they won't understand what you have just told them until later... however, if you desire to have a close inter-personal relationship with...

Worship INFJs? No. Admire and be amazed at their unusual gifts and qualities? Yes. Let me give you a few examples of my INFJ wife. Being somewhat introverted she is shy, reserved, and a little socially awkward, and she is not too skilled at small talk. However, she can within minutes be...

Yes, we have talked about it, and yes I love my INFJ and want to stay married to her... Thank you for your insights as my wife is similar - i need to shut up and just listen, let her fantasize about possibilities and fantasize with her regarding the topic, let her ask questions so she can...

Oh my gosh, that's it!!! You just put in words what I have been thinking about for the last few days... I literally was just getting ready to post something just like this... leave it to an INFJ to put it in words so clearly and elegantly... You INFJs are so rare, mysterious, and wonderful...

Thanks for your replies thus far, it helps! I think the hard thing for an S like me to understand is the communication differences: ISTJ = socially awkward, small talk can be a challenge, and conversations are for: gathering facts and information, finding answers, and drawing conclusions...

I am married to an absolutely wonderful INFJ woman… when we were courting and then engaged we had deep connection with one another (the S part of me didn’t really consciously know this, I just knew I was in love with her, but my wife says she had this with me)… but over the years of marriage and...