The dynamics between men and women are very interesting. Sometimes I can't help but think it's amazing how different men and women can be from each other. Like how the hell are we even the same species? I'm sure everybody alive has heard the old stereotype that men are logical and women are emotional which from my personal opinion is crap.
Of course, all of this is my own personal opinion since I don't have a gaggle of graduate students to do research for me and still then it would be a social study which means whatever discovered is not always true. Either way, nothing I am saying is fact just my observation and it doesn't apply to every single person perfectly. There is no 100% when dealing with people, 75% is good enough. So take it for what it is worth.
So with that little disclaimer out of the way, the reason behind me saying that is crap. There are studies upon studies on the differences between men and women. From the very obvious physical differences, to relationship preferences, attraction, communication, the list goes on and honestly it is very fascinating stuff to study. The simple thing I can gather from all those studies and my own observations is that men are not terminators lacking any form of emotion and women are not one cute kitten picture away from losing it.
How I like to think it is that women are very logical and men are very emotional but how these things manifest themselves are completely different. Let me start with men for obvious reasons. We have emotions and we can feel them as intensely and as deeply as women feel them. How we convey them though is, for lack of a better term, suppressed.
Let's say a man has had a bad day at work. Most are not going to want to come home and open up about it, let it out and work through the emotion. More than likely they are going to want to do something that distracts them from the emotion. This could be whatever hobby they have. Working on cars, video games, movies, drawing, musical instruments. Our emotion is expressed through that action in many ways.
That desire to completely envelope the mind in a process that takes us away from the negative emotion is a way of coping with that emotion which is also why we can sometimes become emotionally attached to things that women don't understand. An example for myself is football and basketball. I played both sports with my brothers for as long as I can remember and then played competitively. When one of us had a bad day, nothing more needed to be said then, "Do you want to shoot some hoops?" So now when I watch that sport, many of those same emotions are inexplicably tied to that action.
For young men like myself, I think it is especially difficult to verbally communicate what we are feeling. It is like a foreign language for us and when you are learning a new language, you might know what you want to say but don't have the understanding to say it. It's frustrating and adds more stress than what it relieves.
However I think it is good for men to learn how to communicate emotions better like women do but here is the catch 22. You have to practice to get better and the societal expectation on men is to be tough and not sensitive. This is where I think mothers really can help out their sons but unfortunately, not every guy has that luxury for one reason or another. So that puts the pressure on young men and women in their first relationships to grow through the pains of this immaturity.
And trust me, it can be painful and too much pain can push a guy even further away from maturing. I wanted to discuss why I think women are logical in this post but it is already getting too long and it is harder for me to write about it which is causing me to go slower in how I structure. I will work on it later.
Of course, all of this is my own personal opinion since I don't have a gaggle of graduate students to do research for me and still then it would be a social study which means whatever discovered is not always true. Either way, nothing I am saying is fact just my observation and it doesn't apply to every single person perfectly. There is no 100% when dealing with people, 75% is good enough. So take it for what it is worth.
So with that little disclaimer out of the way, the reason behind me saying that is crap. There are studies upon studies on the differences between men and women. From the very obvious physical differences, to relationship preferences, attraction, communication, the list goes on and honestly it is very fascinating stuff to study. The simple thing I can gather from all those studies and my own observations is that men are not terminators lacking any form of emotion and women are not one cute kitten picture away from losing it.
How I like to think it is that women are very logical and men are very emotional but how these things manifest themselves are completely different. Let me start with men for obvious reasons. We have emotions and we can feel them as intensely and as deeply as women feel them. How we convey them though is, for lack of a better term, suppressed.
Let's say a man has had a bad day at work. Most are not going to want to come home and open up about it, let it out and work through the emotion. More than likely they are going to want to do something that distracts them from the emotion. This could be whatever hobby they have. Working on cars, video games, movies, drawing, musical instruments. Our emotion is expressed through that action in many ways.
That desire to completely envelope the mind in a process that takes us away from the negative emotion is a way of coping with that emotion which is also why we can sometimes become emotionally attached to things that women don't understand. An example for myself is football and basketball. I played both sports with my brothers for as long as I can remember and then played competitively. When one of us had a bad day, nothing more needed to be said then, "Do you want to shoot some hoops?" So now when I watch that sport, many of those same emotions are inexplicably tied to that action.
For young men like myself, I think it is especially difficult to verbally communicate what we are feeling. It is like a foreign language for us and when you are learning a new language, you might know what you want to say but don't have the understanding to say it. It's frustrating and adds more stress than what it relieves.
However I think it is good for men to learn how to communicate emotions better like women do but here is the catch 22. You have to practice to get better and the societal expectation on men is to be tough and not sensitive. This is where I think mothers really can help out their sons but unfortunately, not every guy has that luxury for one reason or another. So that puts the pressure on young men and women in their first relationships to grow through the pains of this immaturity.
And trust me, it can be painful and too much pain can push a guy even further away from maturing. I wanted to discuss why I think women are logical in this post but it is already getting too long and it is harder for me to write about it which is causing me to go slower in how I structure. I will work on it later.