[INFJ] How about the yes saying?

[Sorn]

I used to answer opinion polls on the phone a few times.
I was often asked questions like: Are you afraid of foreigners?
You could only answer yes or no.
Such nonsense. I can't answer one or the other.
I'm afraid of people threatening me, it has nothing to do with
foreigners.
Sometimes even my boss tries to make me commit to a certain statement.
( clearly, these are not questions whether I want more salary)
Usually this turns into longer conversations, where I try to
to look at the matter from several angles.
When sometimes people try to corner me by urging me to answer yes or no,
I turn the tables on them and tell them
answer the next question with yes or no.
Then I ask a dog lover, for example:
You still beating your dog?
(Instead of beating the dog, you can use any other activities.
Things you think might make the other person uncomfortable.)
If he answers yes, then I say, ok, you're not a dog lover after all.
If he answers no, then I can say that he obviously
used to beat his dog.
No matter what he answers, he used to beat his dog, or still beats it.

Honestly, all those psych tests I took, I've been having my problems
to give a clear answer.

How is it with you?

 

[Sandie33]

I used to answer opinion polls on the phone a few times.
I was often asked questions like: Are you afraid of foreigners?
You could only answer yes or no.
Such nonsense. I can't answer one or the other.
I'm afraid of people threatening me, it has nothing to do with
foreigners.
Sometimes even my boss tries to make me commit to a certain statement.
( clearly, these are not questions whether I want more salary)
Usually this turns into longer conversations, where I try to
to look at the matter from several angles.
When sometimes people try to corner me by urging me to answer yes or no,
I turn the tables on them and tell them
answer the next question with yes or no.
Then I ask a dog lover, for example:
You still beating your dog?
(Instead of beating the dog, you can use any other activities.
Things you think might make the other person uncomfortable.)
If he answers yes, then I say, ok, you're not a dog lover after all.
If he answers no, then I can say that he obviously
used to beat his dog.
No matter what he answers, he used to beat his dog, or still beats it.

Honestly, all those psych tests I took, I've been having my problems
to give a clear answer.

How is it with you?

Go with your gut. First answer to pop in your head.

 

[Professor Snep]

 

[biwaly]

Good point, "it depends" should be among the answers.

 

[Cornerstone]

 

[Sorn]

Our world is not black and white. It's not even grey. Our world is colourful.
And even the colours we see are only a small part of the spectrum.
So who could presume to answer yes or no to all the questions.
But I'm not the donkey who can't decide between two hay bales and therfore starves to death.
The one who claims to have come to the answer by thinking is possibly just as wrong as the one who decides according to his intuition.

 

[Wyote]

Most binary questions/statements that people use to build their bullshit self constructs actually contain spectrums within them.
Which is useful to know, because you can more readily pinpoint people who are locked in to certain modes of operating.

From a personal standpoint, I can usually understand the view of a person on either side of things.
I'm not terribly invested in the opinions of others unless it's going to create problems for me personally or those I care about.