Have you ever truly loved an ISTP?

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There are two friends in my life, completely separate instances, where I felt intensely drawn to these two guys - both were ISTP's. I don't think it was gay, I certainly didn't want it to be, but it was still a very intense connection on my end, which of course overwhelmed them. The ghosting that followed really did a number on my feelings cause all I wanted was to a be a reasonable part of their life. I let them go and they never came back to me. I'm ok, but the emotional high when the friendship was mutually enjoyed, I noted, was like an addiction and other people (except other INFJ's) just seem, I'm sorry, but - boring. Banal. A drain of my energy.

I just read that we're naturally drawn to ISTP's and we admire them. Anyone else resonate or understand this kind of draw? Should I actively look for this type in a mate and friends? Or is this type our kryptonite?
 
I’ve had two relationships with ISTP’s and both were terribly unfulfilling. They always felt closed off and distant. A friend told me one of them had skinny-love - a term I hadn’t heard prior to that - but after a little research and reflection, it appeared fairly accurate. Everyone is different and my sample size is small so I can’t advise definitively against this type, but I wouldn’t choose to go down that path in the future.
 
Interesting. My brother is an ISTP and I find him warm and kind. He is extremely patient and tolerant. He is reserved, but so am I.

I have a friend who is an ISTP and she makes me nervous. She's particular (may be OCD) and easily annoyed.
 
I have a friend who is ISTP. He is so brilliant, to me, anyway, yet he takes himself for granted. Maybe we all do, and I see him that way because his gifts are not mine, so seem a natural magic.

Within him is an immense heart, but he can only see its shadow, and not its luminance.

He is a skeptic, which I admire, yet he may still be seduced by emotional trickery. He seems reserved, and is, but his regard is different if and when trust is granted. Still quiet, but with a comfort which suggests worn denim, or single malt by autumnal fire.

Cheers,
Ian
 
aeon said:
I have a friend who is ISTP. He is so brilliant, to me, anyway, yet he takes himself for granted. Maybe we all do, and I see him that way because his gifts are not mine, so seem a natural magic.

Within him is an immense heart, but he can only see its shadow, and not its luminance.

He is a skeptic, which I admire, yet he may still be seduced by emotional trickery. He seems reserved, and is, but his regard is different if and when trust is granted. Still quiet, but with a comfort which suggests worn denim, or single malt by autumnal fire.

Cheers,
Ian
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Exactly! You get it. My guy is the greatest worker I have ever seen at any job. He's great at everything, perfect, exceptionally, fast and efficient. I can't even dream of keeping up with him which makes the loss all the more painful. I can't celebrate with him. At least I know he's doing more than well.
 
Quarkmaster said:
Seriously, until you've loved an INTP, you haven't truly loved.
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Did so, but I was relegated to lesser status, because there was only room for the true love of ethanol at the top.

Whatever,
Ian
 
JustPhil said:
Bigger question is "can you ever truly be loved by an ISTP"?
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Sure. Whether you will experience it as such is in question, but yes, it is entirely possible they will love you truly.

Cheers,
Ian
 
aeon said:
Did so, but I was relegated to lesser status, because there was only room for the true love of ethanol at the top.
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A relationship destined for failure. While I appreciate ENFP friends, we're not made for romance.
Better matches are with INFJs (for INTPs). I thought for a long time that ENFJs would be an ideal match, but through my experiences with both ENFJs and INFJs, that INFJs seemed to be more... "home" to me. A symbiosis and a natural rapport that would emerge within moments of contact. I never had this with any other type.
 
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