INFJ Forum

What's wrong with talking

You know me Rit. <3 I can be a bit obsessive/needy at times and a few people have said this was considered toxic. (I think that's what was considered toxic, I mean it wasn't really explained to me other than it was a drain on them.) So, in trying to stop myself from talking too much or forcing myself on people, I just distract myself. It works. I'm not talking. But I'm still here in between play sessions <3

I don't think it's the place of others to describe anothers behaviour as toxic, and influencing a change. Everyone has their shortcomings - no one has the authority to act as if they're any higher. Be whom you are April - anything else is disingenuous to yourself. For the record, I didn't agree with your blog post for the same reasons.
Except maybe Jesus. But I'm Atheist so :thonk:

While I'm very happy to see you spend time in things that enable you to take comfort in your solitude, I have to say the obsessive/needy is cute to the right people. I think I'm a drain to people too, but is it true? If not, how can it be true for you?????

@mintoots @Rit4lin While I love these messages and really do agree, my behaviors were selfish. I wasn't thinking how my actions affected the people I supposedly loved the most. This is what prompted a desire to change. Not their words. I wouldn't do anything just because someone said to.. I am WAY too stubborn for that, hehe. But aww, you guys both make me feel loved so thank you <3

Pffft. We're all selfish. You'd be surprised how selfish I can be too. I'm a spoiled brat coddled by the protection and affection I receive from my friends and family. LMAO