You are so brave. I never make the first move.
I never used to. Then I decided I have nothing to lose by saying how I feel, but if I decide to keep my feelings to myself I lose a lot of potential time with the person I'm into as well.
You are so brave. I never make the first move.
I never used to. Then I decided I have nothing to lose by saying how I feel, but if I decide to keep my feelings to myself I lose a lot of potential time with the person I'm into as well.
Just curious, ladies who say you express your interest in a guy... is this the difference between the usual stand offish blank expressions as you hope he overcomes your walls and your idea of showing interest is being willing to flirt a little and drop hints, or are you actually saying you're chasing these guys, getting their numbers, and asking them out?
Just curious, ladies who say you express your interest in a guy... is this the difference between the usual stand offish blank expressions as you hope he overcomes your walls and your idea of showing interest is being willing to flirt a little and drop hints, or are you actually saying you're chasing these guys, getting their numbers, and asking them out?
The Sandra showing interest is very subtle. Only ppl who know her well will be able to tell the difference between her average/polite mood and EXCITED/attracted mood, over the course of a short conversation. The only tell-tale sign is how actively she's trying to keep the conversation going. That doesn't necessarily mean CARRYING the conversation, but subtlely inviting further conversation and perhaps carrying a little herself. It's different from actual flatness and indifference, which is usually what most people get, but the difference is pretty subtle. IRL though the Sandra does not hesitate to smoothly end a conversation if she doesn't wanna talk.I suppose that depends. Generally speaking if I'm interested in someone it's because we've had some previous dialogue and I've had the chance to observe them with other people and have got to know them a bit. If I think that there could be mutual interest or that we would mesh well together I'll directly say that I like them. If that goes well, then I'll give out my phone number. But I do these things without any sort of expectation and without fishing for reciprocation. I keep it casual because for me crushes are a LOT of fun and I don't have much problem putting myself out there if I'm not completely emotionally invested yet.
I would say that I am a pursuer though this is kind of new behaviour for me. I'll strike up the first conversation and I'll initiate subsequent conversations and I'll open myself up first and see where that takes things. I don't like to get needy or clingy, and am NOT a mushy person or emotionally expressive at all so it keeps things nice and comfy while I get to know the person more.
Confessing your feelings for someone doesn't have to be scary.
You also have to acknowledge that although that may be true, brain 'sex' can differ from male to female. For example, I am biologically female, but the 'sex' of my brain is balanced between the male and female sex and on occasion with a slight male inclination, and therefore I do not think in the ways stereotypical of females.
Being that I assume you have not tested the brain sex of the individual in question, it's totally inaccurate and biased to be giving information base on that when it's unconfirmed.
FURTHERMORE, although brain sex can mold how we process things and think, it does not dictate how we act upon our thoughts. Just because someone has a brain sex of female or male does not mean that if they are interested in someone they will do x y and z because everyone is different and has had their own experiences and reacts differently, EVEN IF they have the same personality type and the same brain sex...they will not react identical to each other and a generalization is too far from accurate to be even remotely helpful.
*****UPDATE*******
So long story short I asked her if we were possibly more than friends and she said she had no idea I was interested in her (wtf really?) and she said we should have a talk about it. That was 5 days ago. We have not talked since. I plan on avoiding her and everyone she knows until I move out of this city.
In conclusion women are confusing and don't know what they want. Things were better when they didn't have rights.
That is all.
Playing hard to get is not some frivolous game--it's way to weed out men who have no ambition.Oh good, I was a little worried that you might be 'playing hard to get' just to make the guy chase aimlessly after you.
I actually like to see a little nervousness when flirting I think many guys like it as well ....
I'm so gracious that men decided women were worthy of having rights in the first place. You amazing, benevolent beings.
This is the sort of thread that makes me wonder why on earth I joined this forum.
You're welcome. God, women are so ungrateful.
I know women are terrible with computers, so I'll help you out. If you don't like what you see, there is an "X" in the upper right hand corner of your screen. If you click it then all the bad people will go away