Hi all. Looking for a little career advice from other INFJs. Why from INFJs specifically? Mostly because I am an INFJ and I don't currently have any INFJs in my life. In my work and personal lives I'm surrounded mostly by xNTx and xSxJ types. They all give great advice, but it all reflects the (sometimes highly divergent) values of those types. I have no one who can help me look at things from an "insider" perspective, so to speak.
Anyway - a little history. I'm in my mid-thirties, married with one kid, and have been working in the software development industry for about 12 years. I've held positions ranging from software engineer, engineering manager, software architect and even (for a short time) VP of engineering. From a purely practical standpoint, the industry has been very good to me. Great pay, challenging projects, smart colleagues, opportunities for advancement, etc. As an INFJ it has stretched me to develop aspects of my personality that would have otherwise remained dormant. Overall, I have much to be grateful for.
However, there's one big thing that is missing (as most INFJs can probably guess) - the job provides me little/no opportunity to apply what is probably my greatest strength - counseling/healing/guiding/teaching/etc. I'm a classic case of an INFJ who has had to beat his intuitive/empathic idealism into submission in order to be "successful" in the "real world". And while this strategy has "worked", I often feel like I'm living someone else's life and letting one of my greatest personal "gifts" go to waste. I kinda hoped that after enough time this sense of disconnection would subside, but after 12 years it's still there.
That said, I am terrified to make a career switch for the usual reasons (e.g. loss of stability, income, status, certainty, etc.). Also, as an INFJ, I know I am prone to emotionalism and idealism, and am wary of chasing after a feeling. However, I also don't want to wake up when I am 60 and feel like I've led a mis-lived life.
Any other INFJs who are or have been in a similar situation? What did you do? What's your advice? Are there any INFJs currenly working as a counselor/therapist or teacher? What's it really like being those professions from an INFJ perspective? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Anyway - a little history. I'm in my mid-thirties, married with one kid, and have been working in the software development industry for about 12 years. I've held positions ranging from software engineer, engineering manager, software architect and even (for a short time) VP of engineering. From a purely practical standpoint, the industry has been very good to me. Great pay, challenging projects, smart colleagues, opportunities for advancement, etc. As an INFJ it has stretched me to develop aspects of my personality that would have otherwise remained dormant. Overall, I have much to be grateful for.
However, there's one big thing that is missing (as most INFJs can probably guess) - the job provides me little/no opportunity to apply what is probably my greatest strength - counseling/healing/guiding/teaching/etc. I'm a classic case of an INFJ who has had to beat his intuitive/empathic idealism into submission in order to be "successful" in the "real world". And while this strategy has "worked", I often feel like I'm living someone else's life and letting one of my greatest personal "gifts" go to waste. I kinda hoped that after enough time this sense of disconnection would subside, but after 12 years it's still there.
That said, I am terrified to make a career switch for the usual reasons (e.g. loss of stability, income, status, certainty, etc.). Also, as an INFJ, I know I am prone to emotionalism and idealism, and am wary of chasing after a feeling. However, I also don't want to wake up when I am 60 and feel like I've led a mis-lived life.
Any other INFJs who are or have been in a similar situation? What did you do? What's your advice? Are there any INFJs currenly working as a counselor/therapist or teacher? What's it really like being those professions from an INFJ perspective? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.