Recent content by WeirdBeardBob

Thanks for the reply! I agreed with her, when we opened up about having feelings towards each other, we'd let each other know if we ever found out there's someone in our lifes who we'd see as a potential partner. I'm going to stick to that agreement no matter what happens! Even though, even if I...

For those who would like an update: I tried to talk with her about the entire situation today; she seemed willing to talk, as long as I asked her questions. She told me she has a hard time just opening up and speaking her own thoughts without anyone digging with her. Fine! I mentioned how it's...

Thanks, I think I did the right thing :) She also replied to it, she says she's finding it hard to just open up about this right here and now, and asked me if I could perhaps ask questions to help her figure things out, so we're talking as we speak! I see where you're coming from! But it feels...

Haha, I get the reply and it IS definitely a red flag. Even if they were bad relationships (which they were from what she told me); they were still relationships. But it's also a symptom of commitment phobia - apparently they're scared to commit and actually naming it a relationship makes it real

Thank you! I feel like at this point I can let it go it needed, and I can be proud to tell myself I've tried my best to make things work, but it probably just wasn't meant to!

I'd like to add that I'm very much leaning towards her actually being afraid of commitment. - She enjoys me talking about things we could potentially do in the future - She likes when I name her nicknames, like when I jokingly call her bae - She likes my good morning messages and me checking...

Thanks! I like to believe I'm going against it with a mature and realistic mindset - trying to be fair to the both of us :)

I completely agree with you! And I also feel like the amount of months I've been chatting with her (especially when you consider it's daily, but also the things "we've been through" and supported each other through) it's reasonable of me to expect her to try and make progress. I've met her needs...

No worries! It's all good! I do agree, though! The constant "not ready yet" would only be a viable excuse, I'd say, if said person was making an effort to actually "get ready". She says she wants to, but isn't ready yet and my head just screams "Then work towards getting ready!"

Thanks for the reply! Your message does make me feel a bit more wary about the situation and it does feel weird, when I think about it! I'll get to watching your video later tonight! This message helped me form a final conclusion, I'll write it down below! At first glance it does sound weird...

She might be content, I'm not sure! She's really worried about me moving on to someone else while she's "mentally not ready to meet me face to face", and as far as I know, she feels sad about this quite a lot. This is probably the best answer I've gotten so far and it seems reasonable! She...

It's not like she's controlling me or checking in on me; but if I don't message her the entire day she feels worried if something's happened to me (she's aware that I have a mental disorder) and she checks in on me to see if I'm doing okay. If I say "Yes" she'll just be like "Sweet, just...

I'm honestly just looking for friendship; someone I can meet up with and hang out with, possibly including other friends. But in her case; I grew feelings for her and I'm willing AND enthusiastic to see where an actual romantic relationship could go

Oh, the narcissistic partner and the sexual trauma aren't related - the abuser and the narcissist are different people! I AM getting a bit impatient, yes! Like, I'm starting to wonder like "Why don't we just meet up and see how things work out?", but no luck! My time limit has basically...

Her and I are both located in the Netherlands. Her stories seem to all add up perfectly fine, besides the part, where in my head, it doesn't make sense when she tells me she sees a future with me by her side; she says my feelings are mutual, yet she won't meet up/hang out with me - But as I...