Recent content by secretsmile

You know, lately I've read a number of posts (not just here, but on other forums) where one has fallen in love with a married person and apparently "doesn't know what to do about it." Krumplenump, I'm really not directing this solely at you, nor is my intention to be nasty. But the idea that...

I was against the idea of dating someone younger than me until I met my husband. I am a year and two months older than him, so I will be 23 and he will remain 21 for a few months after that. *shrug* At first I was hesitant about how long our relationship would last...well, you see how that...

Yes, major mood swings. To the common stranger I am reserved and nondescript. To the people I'm close with, I am a firecracker.

Mmmmkay! Thankfully I don't need it since I'm a married woman! :) And the hubs is an INTP...thank goodness!

LOL! Your posts generally crack me up. This one included. First...AWWWWWW you're SO INTP! So cute. Your INTPness is just oozing all over your post, haha. Second, hyperness is usually a good sign. I am that way when I feel comfortable with someone. Granted, a first date situation IS a...

This thread is really strange. A 20 year old giving relationship advice. I mean, not that what you've written isn't generally "good" advice, but if I had listened to some of what you said, I probably wouldn't be married now. Whatevs.

I was extremely shy when I was younger. Now I can switch it on and off when I want to. If I'm uninterested or don't like people I'm newly acquainted with, I act "shy" to ward them off. Anyway, I worked as a waitress and a cashier for about three years, and then I worked another job that had...

I'm sorry, one of the major things that stuck out to me was that your ex-boyfriend (who is apparently gay) was talking to your new interest online. Does that send up a huge red flag for you or no? I think for me it would.

Yep, I've been fantasizing for about two months now how the whole scene will play out when my husband comes home from Iraq. It's always extremely vivid and realistic, but always more melodramatic than what will probably actually occur. ;) My imagination is always more dramatic than my reality.

I was incredibly shy at 17 as well. I avoided interaction with males because of how nervous it made me. All I can say is that in time (and with experience) you'll grow out of it. You just have to put yourself out there and make yourself uncomfortable. In a couple of years you'll have a...

It does sound like he's probably a strong T. My hubs is a weaker T, for sure. But I definitely understand the T/F divide. We can battle it out sometimes. He is much more capable of expressing emotion than the 'typical' INTP might be, though, so maybe that's why we work. He has a friend who I...

Here is something very valuable I have learned. I've been with my INTP for about a year and a half, and we've been married for 5 months. When I'm angry at him, my knee-jerk response is to be critical and sarcastic and bossy. It doesn't matter how right I am and how wrong he is (even when he...

So then I wonder if you guys are like me in this way... At social gatherings where I am not familiar with most of the people, I am very reserved and I am entirely aware of the fact that I'm probably coming off as cold or stuck up. Then I'll stand there and think about how they don't know me...

Yep! We didn't move around a lot. We were lucky enough that once my dad got stationed here, we pretty much stayed here for the rest of my childhood. However, everyone else came and went. The military lifestyle definitely doesn't help the issues an INFJ has with friend-making, but it's not the...

> But then that might be a given since I married an INTP.