Recent content by Rosaliya

Flavus Aquila Of course. The reason I asked for advice is to hear how different people see my problem, more as a research than guidance. I am an anthropologist after all. :) But it helped gain some insight nevertheless, so thank you. I also read INFJ's generally have that "don't like...

Flavus Aquila but it still gives us the benefit of the doubt, doesn't it? If I just talked to him about it, the cards would all be on the table and he would have the pressure of there being a friend who is not just a friend. Perhaps he would feel like he needs to reciprocate, but knowing he...

Eventhorizon I wouldn't like to think of myself as the person who manages to "steal" someone away from their true happiness...surely if he is happy, he will remain where he is, if he's as smart as I imagine..if he isn't, then well I doubt I will have any interest for him furthermore. However...

courteouskitten thank you for this insight. You're saying you had a similar experience a few years ago? Care to elaborate more on that, how did the process go? The two of you getting closer together? You can pm me if you don't wish for everyone to read it. As far as the connection goes, I...

Eventhorizon I wouldn't mind that - if he dropped me for someone else he liked better. I ended my previous relationship when I realized that my boyfriend likes another girl, even before he realized he liked her that much and they've been together for a year now. I'm not interested in those who...

Anywhere But Here I don't think he will start missing me if I disappear...maybe a little, but it will pass soon as he only knows me for a short period of time. I haven't had the chance to get under his skin yet,not as much as I would like for him to become emotionally "dependent" on me. Perhaps...

Flavus Aquila your advice makes sense. I think for someone who is looking for serious connection (such as he is, as I managed to find out by now), it's better to think long-term strategically than to rush anything now. So, just a friend for now. However, it's hard to be patient when these...

Flavus Aquila - agreed, he doesn't do things without carefully thinking about them first. That's why I feel like this whole thing happening between us is different on many levels for the both of us (happens fast). Like I said, I didn't event want a relationship until I met him and finally felt...

Anywhere But Here - Yes I have met her. She's quite annoying, not because she's his gf, but because she's overly extroverted for my taste, boring, clingy and overall someone I would probably hunt down and kill if it was legal, lol. Jk. But yes, I have met her and he does mention her sometimes...

I see you're also INTJ. You'll probably understand me when I say this - I can stay away without staying away; I've been trying to do so because of everything you just said, but at the same time it's like he's cracking into my rationality more than anyone ever. It's much harder for me to control...

Ok, so I'm an INTJ female and very recently fell hard for an INFJ male. It wasn't something I wanted, I didn't want a relationship at the moment and was completely shutting down my romantic/feelings radar. But we met accidentally by mutual friends and something happened instantly. I got...