I had this very same problem. The guy I was dating had his hairstylist friend come over to cut his hair at 8 a.m. on a Sunday. I usually don't wake till 9 or so and he hadn't told me so I felt very hurt and violated. Shortly after, the guy broke up with me because I was too boring and asocial.
I want to flip the table over if I and dining with someone who chews with his/her mouth open. I tend to leave the table if someone is eating a banana or pasta if the room is too quiet.
I cannot stand it when my mom makes up explanations for why things happen.
If I am around people I don't know then my responses become very terse. If I am around people I know then my left eyebrow will raise and I will avoid eye contact.
I go to a particular coffee shop everyday and the baristas all know me. I've been ordering the same drink since God knows when and the baristas all know my order but I hate to be that person who expects people to know what I like so I have to rehearse my drink order several times before I get...
I think I finally feel validated enough by descriptions of the INFJ to cut someone I've endured since childhood out of my life. His behaviors and choices rasp against my core values and so i think it's time to cast him off.