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    Why it sucks to be an INFJ

    Having a better idea of why people do not like aspects of me I cannot change was actually helpful even if it changes virtually nothing - with the exception of learning how to deal with it. I can understand why, and it makes sense. Better to be independent than constant whoring for other people's...
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    INFJs, why would you friendzone someone?

    Everyone is in my friend zone. A better question might be when or why I wouldn't "friendzone" someone.
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    Relationship mess - I need help!

    My partner (INFJ) and I (INFJ) both struggle with occasional anxiety, low mood, and some health problems. We have days when it is more trying, but the worst is mostly behind us and we are pretty comfortable with what we can and cannot do, and reasonably expect from each other. A long-term...
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    Do INFJs stay single longer than other personality types?

    Being single is not a disease to be gotten rid of. So what if others pair up? Good for them. Are you happy being single? Do you realize your life is better without a partner who abuses you or one who generally drives you crazy? Lots of people will judge you negatively for not pairing up, and...
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    How do you approach your significant other's weaknesses?

    Unless the person sees this as a goal for themselves, your harping on it will probably be a negative in the relationship. If anything, it may even make them more disinclined to deal with it. The idea that you must improve a partner to make them more acceptable to you is almost like infantalizing...
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    Getting "Over" An Ex

    The worst part about these experiences is that everyone has their own time for getting past things. INFJs can have it especially bad. After my fiancee died it literally took me about 10 years to get over it. We can be glacially dlow about things. The only you can do is keep busy, try not to...
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    [INFJ] we broke up.. was it a right choice?

    What else do you need to know? Everyone has issues and baggage. No one is perfect. The question is if the person is aware of, and believes that their behavior can, or needs to be changed. Or if you can live with so-called issues and imperfections, and the other person can live with yours...
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    I am an ENFP male and i think i scared INFJ woman away

    It's not possible to predict anyone's behavior 100%, not even by personality type. But from another INFJ female, if I were you I would not hold my breath. While it's possible that the two of you may be friendly eventually, you can never be sure how your words may cut deeply into someone, even...
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    Fed up with modern dating/“quick sex”

    There are a lot of things I just don't get about "dating", and it is just a wste of time trying to figure it out. I was never a part of that scene. To me such people are sick and weak. Eventually they even get bored by hook-ups with random strangers and they need to do something more extreme and...
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    Social Media and Narcissism

    I thinking we need to make a distinction between true narcissism, anxiety driven over-focus on the self, and pathological narcissism of two subtypes: stable and unstable, with the later being driven by a sense of inferiority and the latter superiority. I think for most peoole social media...
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    Which Type Do You Get Along With the Least?

    (Remember, you did ask. Don't get mad at me if you don't like my reply.) OMG an Aquarian ISFP! Someone get me my double barrel 12 gauge! Or a pitchfork, or something. I know one in particular, and I can barely be civil when speaking about that egocentric, attention whore. And when he gets that...
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    Describe your style

    I am usually irritated when I pick what I am going to wear, so my style is based on what I will feel comfortable in that day. When I buy clothing, I look for comfort and color. And it had better be on sale because I am not paying a lot for something that is basically a rag. I do not feel right...
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    Female INFJ confused about relationship with Male

    Sounds like a real SNAFU. I don't know if what you want to hear is how to get back with him, but you won't hear it from me either. If this guy is unwilling to work on a relationship with you, and he is very clear about it, I would take his word for it. Anyway, pushing it will not end well. I...
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    What Is a Good Man?

    Oh, I see! I touched a nerve! You were taliking about yourself. Spoken like a true narcissist/sociopath.
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    What Is a Good Man?

    A man who is mature, compassionate, and responsible, but who can still find lighthearted enjoyment in life despite all the negative stuff that goes on. Healthy sense of humor is also important. A man who is brave enough to be genuine despite the guff he gets from those who are uncomfortable with...