Recent content by Malena

Your welcome. You’ve been with a narcisisst and men don’t treat you right at dates, that tells me that your a empathic person and they probably saw that too and hence wanted your company. So i hope that the next man you’ll meet is mature and kind like your friend and someone at your own level :)...

Yes you do, many bad/shallow people out there and a man would be lucky to have you!

I know, it does feel different. And safe and hopeful <3 i’ve overcome so much pain on my own, i feel a certain resistance towards it for some reason I hope you meet someone to treat you as your friend and reject everyone who dosen’t. Thank you :)

I’ve been meaning to journal for a long time but keep procrastinating it. Plants are a wonderful hobby. I also visit the ocean an hour away from here when i can, i feel grounded and at peace watching the waves and smelling the salty air, i really recommend it for stress and negative thoughts

Yes, good advice :) i talked to my boss the other day and asked for more shifts so i have less free time, also started to work out more to feel stronger

The thing is that i don’t feel lonley when i’m not dating or interested in someone. Most of my loneliness started after i starting dating and got treated like trash by so many. I’ve rejected a lot of men myself, but always in a respectful manner and many became my friends instead. I would never...

Yes, i wish that too. Dating should be fun and not make you cry and feel horrible afterwards. Sounds like it’s a wonderful «default» the , that’s how it should be and the most healthy mindset when it comes to dating and rejection

You’re right, it is harder because they give the illusion of being emotionally available when they are not. And one shouldn’t internalize others behaviour so much, at least try not to. I’m happy for you that you don’t waste time on being attracted to those men anymore :) Thank you, i have a...

I remember this doctor who kept chasing me for months, i said yes to a date after him asking for so long. He got a little drunk on our date and told me about some things about this work who had been so tragic he sometimes cried himself to sleep. I wasn’t clingy or over the top with this one, i...

And btw you sound like a You sound like a good person! True words! Unlike my younger years i am attracted to men who seem really kind, safe and warm, but they act as if i repel them and become a different person after i start to develop feelings so i don’t dare to date anymore. I think i need...

Thank you, i was actually asked out this friday by this classic tall, dark and handsome man. My first instinct was to feel anxious and think what do he want from me, is he planning on using me, do he find me looking naive and someone he can take advantage of?! Haha, in the end i said no. I used...

Thank you, and i’m sorry you went through that painful past. My dad has a personality disorder and was at times emotionally abusive to my mom (she’s a infj too), not the best environment to grow up in, but he was and still is intense in his love to me. I used to fall for men who was dominant...

It’s okay someone might feel that way, but it shouldn’t be so hard letting someone down without being cruel about it. That’s what making it so painful, being treated like worthless trash by the same person who was so warm and tender just days before. If someone says hey, i had a good time but...

Thank you so much! Yes, some have said it straight to my face, and the last one i was dating said he wanted something serious with me, but then over night changed his personality and was really mean and degrading. He didn’t even bother to cancel our last date, even though he initiated it. And...

Thank you for taking this time for a great response, i’ll try taking your advice and think what feels best for me and not mold myself into what fit for others. Changing myself would be like some sort of self abandonment. I love being myself when i’m alone or with family and friends, and so happy...