Recent content by Janas

The new update and I really have no idea what to do anymore. After 3 weeks of almost no contact he started to call me and we talked and he visited me and now we are back where we were! He can't be without me and misses me especially after he saw that I'm just busy with my life and meeting new...

he is my boss and I don't work for 2 weeks because of this. I'm now afraid to do anything. He used to be my mentor and we worked a lot together he always gave me advices and such. Because of this situation I have no idea how to approach it. He said only necessary work communication but even that...

Hi thank you for your message, if it is like that then it seems to me that its impossible to keep any relationship with any INFJ because everybody does mistakes at times and it shouldn't be black or white. I was too direct but the message was truth not bad or good just an observation of the...

Ok, thank you. I didn't send the message to him I deleted it. What he asked from me is to keep minimal contact as colleagues and see how it goes from there. I really care so much about him even when he did what he did to me. Look I left me marriage to have a clear start and he started with me...

actually i was busy writing message (didn't send it) as an apology and acknowledging his feelings and decisions and that I go on with my life wishing him all the best and also that I will just continue our communication at work as agreed. So kind of a goodbye apology message so I can for the...

thank you for you long response. It hurts me so much to read it though. I got divorcer just to start a clean relationship with him since my relationship was not ok anymore. I considered to write him one apology message just to let him know my feelings and that I respect his decision and all. Is...

he left me from one day to another and as I suffered I really needed to get some things more clear. I needed to look for my health too. So you think he wil not forgive me? He made this decision 2 weeks ago which was very hurtful to me. All I dit was that I needed some clarity and I didn't even...

Ok so here goes my latest update which is probably the final. Last 2 weeks were pure hell for me, I never have been in so much stress, I can't even work anymore, let alone my health now. Last 2 week I called him a few times. First 2 times I was very supportive and understanding for him and we...

thank you one more time. Due to lack of sleep and exhaustion I forgot to mention that they decided to split up and announce this at their work and to their families. Now they will see how things go from his point but seeing each other occasionally. I have such an urge to contact him because I...

Thank you very much for your reply. Desperate situation = desperate actions. I don't know his family of friends, only our mutual colleagues so I can't talk to anybody about him like that. All I have left is faith in our love and unique connection.

Thank you so much! You have no idea how much you helped me. I don't sleep for one week already and I'm barely functioning because of this. I feel that our love is very special. He used to say it like it feels so amazing, everything he wished for and he never felt like this of met someone like...

Thank you so much. Yes, that is how he described it with the rainy and sunny island as I wrote in my previous post to Slant. Why do you think he will come back? I see you are and INFJ so I guess you can decode his behavior better than me. I'm ENTJ and analyzing this situation to the exhaustion...

Hi Polly thank you very much for your response. Im catching every straw of hope and so. Did you read my initial message that you came to the conclusion that his marriage won't work? The most painful is no contact now. I mis him terribly already.

Thank you for your response. I'm not sure if you red my last update from yesterday that I replied to Slant but last monday he broke up with me and he wanted to give a chance to his marriage again. 180 degree turn compared to last sunday. He had a talk with his wife, it was supposed to be about...

I forgot to mention one important thing,. our love developed for years and last two years he was in love with me already. He liked me since 2016 and he never met such a match for him as me. He kept on saying that it feels so amazing to be able to be himself and everything is so great that it is...