For me, it is a conscious decision. It is cold but it is not a 'tactic.' If I doorslam someone, I want to distance myself from them. I don't want to care what they think. Doorslamming as a tactic implies that I secretly want them to come back and show me they care. It is not a true doorslam if...
If you broke up three times before, and he moved jobs to get away from you and is now seeing someone else, he is working on getting over you. It is not your business how far he has gotten in that process. All that matters is that he is trying very hard to stick to his decision.
Break ups are...