I may not have the best advice for this, but i wanted to give my thoughts, since my most passionate relationship was with an ENFP.
There are so many people out there. As much as it REALLY sucks that there is a connection between you two, they are married, so i would probably keep that in mind...
Meanwhile i am almost pure INFJ,,,,,, I cannot escape it
edit; i'm still thinking about my 1% extroversion,,,, i... i swear i'm more social than that..........
"But I tell 'em
Why won't you let me go
Do I threaten all your plans?
I'm insignificant
Please tell 'em
You have no plans for me
I will set my soul on fire
What have I become? I tell 'em X2
I tell 'em
I tell 'em
I tell 'em
Please tell 'em
You have no plans for me
I will set my soul on fire...