It's been a challenge for both of us by times. Maybe too much so. However I mention her type as an example that self esteem issues (I have my own as well) are not the domain of any particular type. You probably know this already and by the rest of your reply, as quoted below, it looks to me like...
I'm currently in a LTR with a female ESTJ and she has the same insecurity. No matter how much I try to show her the truth of the matter it never seems to invoke much change in her beliefs and walking on eggshells around the issue becomes the norm.
I've come to realize that without her wanting...