Thanks, @Sonya ! You inspired this thread.
My inner and outer selves don't match.
There seems to be two phases of the outer self. There's one where I'm speaking to people and often joking around with them, which most people IRL seem to like, and then there's one where I've spaced out..I do that a lot during the day. Even if I'm at work, if nobody is around talking to me, then I'm "not there". My body is there, and I'm doing what I'm supposed to do, but it's on auto pilot. *Edit- Technically, this isn't an "outer self", but people can still see a "shell".
I used to think it was Ni that caused my mind to wander, but I don't know- still not 100% convinced that I'm an INFJ. Unfortunatley, when people see this spaced-out phase, they seem to get a little creeped out by it. More recenlty, I've tried not to do that when I'm in public, but it's hard.
My voice is deep and almost monotone sounding. My inner monologue is the exact opposite. What is seen online is actually closer to the "real me" than what people see IRL. Some of my closest friends and family would undoubtedly be surprised to see some of the things that I've written online. They wouldn't think that I'm the type to say such things.
Do INFJs here relate? What's your inner and outer selves like?
My inner and outer selves don't match.
There seems to be two phases of the outer self. There's one where I'm speaking to people and often joking around with them, which most people IRL seem to like, and then there's one where I've spaced out..I do that a lot during the day. Even if I'm at work, if nobody is around talking to me, then I'm "not there". My body is there, and I'm doing what I'm supposed to do, but it's on auto pilot. *Edit- Technically, this isn't an "outer self", but people can still see a "shell".
I used to think it was Ni that caused my mind to wander, but I don't know- still not 100% convinced that I'm an INFJ. Unfortunatley, when people see this spaced-out phase, they seem to get a little creeped out by it. More recenlty, I've tried not to do that when I'm in public, but it's hard.
My voice is deep and almost monotone sounding. My inner monologue is the exact opposite. What is seen online is actually closer to the "real me" than what people see IRL. Some of my closest friends and family would undoubtedly be surprised to see some of the things that I've written online. They wouldn't think that I'm the type to say such things.
Do INFJs here relate? What's your inner and outer selves like?