Thanks, sis. Don't worry about your charms. These things wax and wane then wax again. We just have to discover his vulnerability. Every intj has at least one.
Indeed. I trust that an effective strategy will be found.
Thanks, sis. Don't worry about your charms. These things wax and wane then wax again. We just have to discover his vulnerability. Every intj has at least one.
[MENTION=3866]splott[/MENTION]
If you want to communicate something more effectively to an intj, try to visualize whatever that thing is as if it were some type of device/rube goldberg machine.
It's helped me anyway, when I get caught up in my "Ni-thought cloud" I'll lose an intj's interest because I start to get all wordy and random(from an outside perspective)
How about a short skinny guy with a can of bear spray? How do you feel about that?I think it's fair to say most people need to feel safe...but it comes more easily to some.
Boyfriend is very tall, strong, former Marine with a hobby of Jiu Jutsu, so there's physically safe,
How about a short skinny guy with a can of bear spray? How do you feel about that?
um...*giggle* what's "bear spray"?
I do tend to like my men tall....INTJ-bf is 6'5", lover is 6'2"...
(er, you were the one who said if I break up with him, you were interested, right? sorry to confuse, that just stuck in my mind...)
This is the first time I've ever been glad to be an INTJ... even if I am a woman.We INFJs are moody assholes, our damn selves.
Things I have learned about relating to the male INTJs in my life:
-They value independence in others, as they are very independent themselves.
-They are non-judgemental & objective. You can feel safe telling them ANYTHING
-someone could pull their toenails off, and they STILL wouldn't tell your secrets. (SO awesome)
-They really do know best... they have thought it all the way through... just go with it. Seriously.
-They will never try to control you. DO NOT try to control them. Let them be. They are trustworthy.
-They don't remember details, or birthdays. Get over it. They do love you.
-They can't read your mind, and they don't get hints. They will LOVE it if you will just tell them you are upset, so they can clear up miscommunication & apologize.
-They love sex. Do not withhold.
-They appreciate affirmations, interest, and affection.
-You will get what you put into the relationship, especially if you respect their need for space.
-DO NOT ask them any question to which an honest answer will crush your tender little INFJ heart! If you do, please know that they did not intend to hurt you.
-Tell them when you need time to lick your wounds. They will give it to you.
-They like acts of service, and will appreciate them very much.
-If they tell you to call or ask when you need anything they deeply care about you. They want you to check in with them. They want you to be okay.
-They are the most loving, thoughtful, intelligent, gentle creatures on the face of the earth.
Ditto.Amen. That's me, except for acts of service; I prefer quality time with someone because I don't need others to do things for me....
... push aside any ... be a <fill in the blank> when he feels it necessary.
so..how 'bout passive-aggressive.."goals"?
tonight he told me he was busy 6-10, and he'd come over afterwards...at 11 i texted, he was in the middle of a game..can't come, in the middle of a game. no eta. no message at 10 when he was supposed to come...apparently the game he was in the middle of? started at 9:30, half hour before he knew I was expecting him...
starting to wonder if it's all some sorta passive-aggressive game to get me to break up with him.
We INFJs are moody assholes, our damn selves.
Things I have learned about relating to the male INTJs in my life:
-They value independence in others, as they are very independent themselves.
-They are non-judgemental & objective. You can feel safe telling them ANYTHING
-someone could pull their toenails off, and they STILL wouldn't tell your secrets. (SO awesome)
-They really do know best... they have thought it all the way through... just go with it. Seriously.
-They will never try to control you. DO NOT try to control them. Let them be. They are trustworthy.
-They don't remember details, or birthdays. Get over it. They do love you.
-They can't read your mind, and they don't get hints. They will LOVE it if you will just tell them you are upset, so they can clear up miscommunication & apologize.
-They love sex. Do not withhold.
-They appreciate affirmations, interest, and affection.
-You will get what you put into the relationship, especially if you respect their need for space.
-DO NOT ask them any question to which an honest answer will crush your tender little INFJ heart! If you do, please know that they did not intend to hurt you.
-Tell them when you need time to lick your wounds. They will give it to you.
-They like acts of service, and will appreciate them very much.
-If they tell you to call or ask when you need anything they deeply care about you. They want you to check in with them. They want you to be okay.
-They are the most loving, thoughtful, intelligent, gentle creatures on the face of the earth.
so..how 'bout passive-aggressive.."goals"?
tonight he told me he was busy 6-10, and he'd come over afterwards...at 11 i texted, he was in the middle of a game..can't come, in the middle of a game. no eta. no message at 10 when he was supposed to come...apparently the game he was in the middle of? started at 9:30, half hour before he knew I was expecting him...
starting to wonder if it's all some sorta passive-aggressive game to get me to break up with him.
INTJs can be selfish and self-centered.so..how 'bout passive-aggressive.."goals"?
tonight he told me he was busy 6-10, and he'd come over afterwards...at 11 i texted, he was in the middle of a game..can't come, in the middle of a game. no eta. no message at 10 when he was supposed to come...apparently the game he was in the middle of? started at 9:30, half hour before he knew I was expecting him...
starting to wonder if it's all some sorta passive-aggressive game to get me to break up with him.
We INFJs are moody assholes, our damn selves.