So, today I realize I have a situation on my plate where I need to decide to tell someone (a friend) that I'm "just not that interested".
I have been known to maintain friendships with people who I don't particularly like, only because I feel bad for them. I typically try and wean them away from the friendship by being aloof in contact and cancelling perpetually on outings. However, it's not working this time. I'm suppose to go to dinner with this one girl who I just don't like. She's normal and fine, but we have different directions in life, I don't like her future husband, she doesn't like my friends (and has been known to say rude things about them), I don't like her friends (they're mean and crazy, and are awful to my friends), and we just generally differ on our values. The problem is, she's always very nice to me and is always trying to be my friend. I've spent months accidentally ignoring contact with her, being "too busy" (well, that was actually true) and cancelling on her parties and gatherings...and she STILL wants to get together. She is having a wedding soon, and I'm terrified that she'll invite me. So what do I do? Do I go to dinner and only perpetuate the façade of a friendship? Or do I cancel again and hope she gets tired of putting all the effort into a friendship. I don't want to be mean to her - although, by ignoring her and cancelling I have been - but I'm just done with trying to fit in a strained friendship in my busy life.
What do I do?? ...........