That0neGuy
Newbie
- MBTI
- ISTP
So first, let me preface this post by saying this: I am not unsatisfied with life right now- in fact, I do have some good things going for me that I look forward to, and I would continue to shape my fortune that way.
With that out of the way, I would like to say that I am just about jaded with the dating scene however, simply because I strongly dislike putting in far more effort to land some decent conversations with others, and I do not like to go to extents to stand out among others because it is very pretentious to me. I am simply tired of being the one to always court others while someone else filters. It would feel nice to be courted after as a guy- there is seriously not enough of that around the world at all, because me not courting or not attempting to attract someone as the pursuer/initiator does not help my chances at all, which is quite more irritating. And no, dropping hints or making small gestures is not a form of initiation at all. I can pick up on signals, but they mean different things with different people, so I choose not to play those games.
Before anyone goes off and say "enjoy life, and let it happen," yes I do agree, but sitting around doing nothing in getting to know someone does not help the situation either. My main frustration is simply me wishing there were more gals/people who could do the courting out there, balance things out. It would be a hell of a lot easier on me and would make everyone else mutually happy, perhaps.
Any echos going on here, or a bit of insight are welcomed.
With that out of the way, I would like to say that I am just about jaded with the dating scene however, simply because I strongly dislike putting in far more effort to land some decent conversations with others, and I do not like to go to extents to stand out among others because it is very pretentious to me. I am simply tired of being the one to always court others while someone else filters. It would feel nice to be courted after as a guy- there is seriously not enough of that around the world at all, because me not courting or not attempting to attract someone as the pursuer/initiator does not help my chances at all, which is quite more irritating. And no, dropping hints or making small gestures is not a form of initiation at all. I can pick up on signals, but they mean different things with different people, so I choose not to play those games.
Before anyone goes off and say "enjoy life, and let it happen," yes I do agree, but sitting around doing nothing in getting to know someone does not help the situation either. My main frustration is simply me wishing there were more gals/people who could do the courting out there, balance things out. It would be a hell of a lot easier on me and would make everyone else mutually happy, perhaps.
Any echos going on here, or a bit of insight are welcomed.