Hey,
Have any of you experienced a lack of acceptance or understanding from possibly ESTJ parents? It seems to me that my mother, who seems to display most of the negative ESTJ tendancies along with a lot of the positive, has never understood, and thus never accepted, me for who I really am. She takes in some things and completely misinterprets or ignores others, then forms this warped preconceived idea about my personal feelings, thoughts, and motivations. She does this with my other sibblings as well, but I feel like she tries to impose her sense of reality the most upon me. Due to several recent extremely verbally abusive conversations based solely on her alcohol-infused reality, I have decided to limit my interactions with her strictly to holidays, as she is also responsible for my twelve-year-old sister who shouldn't have to suffer because our mother has issues, to say the least. My fiance very strongly agrees with this as well, as does my married middle sister who has also had major problems with her for the same reasons. Our brother doesn't seem to realize that he has the right to be legitimately angry at our mother when she treats him the way she treats the rest of us, but he seems to think that, since she had us and raised us, she isn't obligated the way the rest of the world is to treat us with respect. He also seems to think that we should accept her feelings, no matter how inappropriately expressed, as though they are inviolate. She's our mother, therefore she's some kind of divinity. Not on my earth! Anyway, sorry for the rant; issues will be addressed in therapy. Lol. So have any of the rest of you had any similar experiences from either parent? If so, what did you do or not do in order to deal with in a way that allowed you to be yourselves in spite of your parents? Replies very much appreciated. Thanks.
Chenoa
Have any of you experienced a lack of acceptance or understanding from possibly ESTJ parents? It seems to me that my mother, who seems to display most of the negative ESTJ tendancies along with a lot of the positive, has never understood, and thus never accepted, me for who I really am. She takes in some things and completely misinterprets or ignores others, then forms this warped preconceived idea about my personal feelings, thoughts, and motivations. She does this with my other sibblings as well, but I feel like she tries to impose her sense of reality the most upon me. Due to several recent extremely verbally abusive conversations based solely on her alcohol-infused reality, I have decided to limit my interactions with her strictly to holidays, as she is also responsible for my twelve-year-old sister who shouldn't have to suffer because our mother has issues, to say the least. My fiance very strongly agrees with this as well, as does my married middle sister who has also had major problems with her for the same reasons. Our brother doesn't seem to realize that he has the right to be legitimately angry at our mother when she treats him the way she treats the rest of us, but he seems to think that, since she had us and raised us, she isn't obligated the way the rest of the world is to treat us with respect. He also seems to think that we should accept her feelings, no matter how inappropriately expressed, as though they are inviolate. She's our mother, therefore she's some kind of divinity. Not on my earth! Anyway, sorry for the rant; issues will be addressed in therapy. Lol. So have any of the rest of you had any similar experiences from either parent? If so, what did you do or not do in order to deal with in a way that allowed you to be yourselves in spite of your parents? Replies very much appreciated. Thanks.
Chenoa