Somebody on another thread brought up the thing of how INFJs can seem very extroverted in a group, but that the people in the group may not really know them.
I think that's a big thing for INFJs. The number of people who 'really' know me are few and far between. I think that is pretty much a standard thing with INFJs... most people don't possess the equipment that is necessary to read us or know us. Meaning, for example, that we are broadcasting on a frequency that the other person's radio does not pick up. And some people, their radios will never pick up that frequency.
And there is also something to, if the people cannot read us/know us by themselves, we don't usually reveal what they can't see. The majority of people see the top 40% layer of who I am, and think they know me. But that is just the surface and not what is underneath. It's not what inspires me, what moves me, or what makes me tick.
There is a word in Japanese (察する, "sassuru") which literally means something like reading minds. It basically means figuring out how another person feels or what another person wants by paying attention to clues. And I think INFJs respect that ability a lot... we have it, and we respect people who can figure us out. If they can't figure us out, then we don't reveal it. lol. Kind of a worthiness thing. lol.
Also, I have noticed that I will reveal myself to people who are truly interested. If they are sincerely interested I am more likely to reveal myself.
I was curious as to what you guys think about this... INFJs, how much of yourself do you reveal? And who do you reveal it to? Under what circumstances?
I think that's a big thing for INFJs. The number of people who 'really' know me are few and far between. I think that is pretty much a standard thing with INFJs... most people don't possess the equipment that is necessary to read us or know us. Meaning, for example, that we are broadcasting on a frequency that the other person's radio does not pick up. And some people, their radios will never pick up that frequency.
And there is also something to, if the people cannot read us/know us by themselves, we don't usually reveal what they can't see. The majority of people see the top 40% layer of who I am, and think they know me. But that is just the surface and not what is underneath. It's not what inspires me, what moves me, or what makes me tick.
There is a word in Japanese (察する, "sassuru") which literally means something like reading minds. It basically means figuring out how another person feels or what another person wants by paying attention to clues. And I think INFJs respect that ability a lot... we have it, and we respect people who can figure us out. If they can't figure us out, then we don't reveal it. lol. Kind of a worthiness thing. lol.
Also, I have noticed that I will reveal myself to people who are truly interested. If they are sincerely interested I am more likely to reveal myself.
I was curious as to what you guys think about this... INFJs, how much of yourself do you reveal? And who do you reveal it to? Under what circumstances?