ok here is my main problem with understanding infjs
its the fe-ti axis which is supposed to be warm on the outside but cold on the inside.
so 1) does that mean you infjs have no emotion internaly?
2) do you ever cry for sad movies? or songs or art ect?
please answer the questions honestly, and not what makes a good answer, but how as an infj you experience theres things?
1. We have emotion internally. I don't think my emotions are as cut and dry as people with Fi high up their stack. I can have an... almost indifference... about myself and my feelings, or I'll "examine" them.
I rarely feel a gushing, emotional certainty.
2. I don't cry easily, but I do cry. I am a feeler! When I cry it isn't usually over
my emotions or about me. I pick up on other people's emotions very easily. I get sad for others.
Heartbreak hits me hard. I'm so deeply invested in whomever I give my heart to that romance problems can crush me.
I'm not necessarily "warm" on the outside, either. I'm shy, introverted, and stuck in my head, which doesn't translate to "warm".
I try to be helpful and I try to make others feel comfortable and liked. Again, I may feel very uncomfortable acting extroverted, but if it helps the other person I'm fine with that. Well, mostly fine with it... if the people are negative or anxious I do read that on them, which makes it harder to be cheery. People often think I'm extroverted and "nice" in person and then get confused when I disappear to recharge.
I can also have a "poker face", though.
Fe is also secondary to us, so we are not ruled by emotion. We are ruled by Ni. From my experience Ni is pretty hard to relate to for a lot of people. I can absolutely tell a difference between fun, sunshiny Fe dominance and Introverted Intuition dominance.
I have gotten teary eyed over seeing very rare, famous, and beloved artwork in person, and I cry from a movie once in a while, but not out of habit.
The biggest problem I've had with other people not understanding me is that they think they figure me out or understand me, and then later realize I don't fit the categorization they chose.