Hi guys, just thought to share what i think is a pretty remarkable story even if my partner and I didnt share the same MBTI.
3 years ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and my first long term one of that in which about 6 weeks later i started dating again right away lol. I had attended a dance music festival (25 at the time) which was held during the day at a circus type showground arena. I had only been there for half an hour so i considered my self fairly sober still, when i seen the most beautiful girl i ever laid eyes on, a good 150 feet away. I tapped my friends to point her out and in no time my friends girlfriend had convinced her to come talk to me. Her phone was almost dead already (yeah shes not a very organised person a lot of the time)so i decided to stay with her. She came back with me that evening and said there was something about me she had never felt or seen before and that i was just so nice. 6 months went by we were engaged. I was absolutely head over heels for this woman she was amazing and we have everything in common together down to hobbies, interests, also the fact we do not want to have kids and ...... shes an INFJ!!!! I have only become familiar with the whole MBTI type in the past year and a half but for me to pick an INFJ out of a crowd randomly, someone who is so alike me and still be with them today as of over 3 years, i think that insanity.
However at this point in our relationship, we are very, very unstable. Always fighting with each other and both of us struggle to leave the relationship. One thing ive taken from this relationship is; The things that make me happy and mean the most to me are my FREEDOM and being DRAMA FREE in life. Our relationship is full of drama almost daily. We are both so exhausted of it. She is extremely insecure and lacks a lot of confidence in her appearance, herself and in our relationship. She is told everywhere we go how beautiful she is. She often says im too hard on her and everyone knows im a perfectionist with ocd when it comes to things like our house and cleanliness, positioning of things and clutter. I also write EVERYTHING DOWN lol goals, shopping lists ideas ect .... everything. Im extremely organised. Im just all about practicability when her personality a lot of the time is best described as "off with the fairies". ( pays bills late, puts empty packaging back in the cupboard and doesnt write down we need it, uses things ive bought then doesnt replace, throws money around; i also sometimes do this just to name a few which frustrate me and give me anxiety.
We have shared some amazing experiences together travelling, we go to the gym together often, walks, the beach, eat out ect. We spend A LOT of time together. She is my best friend. Now it seems to really be coming to a breaking point as we are about to move into an apartment i just bought (she didnt contribute to saving at the time and her employment status isn't set up stably according to the bank criteria). We have come to a fork whether she will go into her own apartment and ill move into mine. This topic is a bit rushed as im heading off to work but this has been my experience dating another INFJ. I think i definitely need to date another Introvert but this will not be happening down the track as i need my own space a lot and i plan to keep it that way.
Your thoughts...
3 years ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and my first long term one of that in which about 6 weeks later i started dating again right away lol. I had attended a dance music festival (25 at the time) which was held during the day at a circus type showground arena. I had only been there for half an hour so i considered my self fairly sober still, when i seen the most beautiful girl i ever laid eyes on, a good 150 feet away. I tapped my friends to point her out and in no time my friends girlfriend had convinced her to come talk to me. Her phone was almost dead already (yeah shes not a very organised person a lot of the time)so i decided to stay with her. She came back with me that evening and said there was something about me she had never felt or seen before and that i was just so nice. 6 months went by we were engaged. I was absolutely head over heels for this woman she was amazing and we have everything in common together down to hobbies, interests, also the fact we do not want to have kids and ...... shes an INFJ!!!! I have only become familiar with the whole MBTI type in the past year and a half but for me to pick an INFJ out of a crowd randomly, someone who is so alike me and still be with them today as of over 3 years, i think that insanity.
However at this point in our relationship, we are very, very unstable. Always fighting with each other and both of us struggle to leave the relationship. One thing ive taken from this relationship is; The things that make me happy and mean the most to me are my FREEDOM and being DRAMA FREE in life. Our relationship is full of drama almost daily. We are both so exhausted of it. She is extremely insecure and lacks a lot of confidence in her appearance, herself and in our relationship. She is told everywhere we go how beautiful she is. She often says im too hard on her and everyone knows im a perfectionist with ocd when it comes to things like our house and cleanliness, positioning of things and clutter. I also write EVERYTHING DOWN lol goals, shopping lists ideas ect .... everything. Im extremely organised. Im just all about practicability when her personality a lot of the time is best described as "off with the fairies". ( pays bills late, puts empty packaging back in the cupboard and doesnt write down we need it, uses things ive bought then doesnt replace, throws money around; i also sometimes do this just to name a few which frustrate me and give me anxiety.
We have shared some amazing experiences together travelling, we go to the gym together often, walks, the beach, eat out ect. We spend A LOT of time together. She is my best friend. Now it seems to really be coming to a breaking point as we are about to move into an apartment i just bought (she didnt contribute to saving at the time and her employment status isn't set up stably according to the bank criteria). We have come to a fork whether she will go into her own apartment and ill move into mine. This topic is a bit rushed as im heading off to work but this has been my experience dating another INFJ. I think i definitely need to date another Introvert but this will not be happening down the track as i need my own space a lot and i plan to keep it that way.
Your thoughts...