justeccentricnotinsane
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- MBTI
- INFJ
I don't mean this in a psychic way. I'm just wondering if this is a personality thing.
I went out with a guy at the weekend who I ended up going home with despite knowing he wasn't right (I was drunk, it's my problem, yeah?) End up allowing myself to get involved with people who are wrong for me because I'm attracted to the puzzle of "what's wrong with them". Don't do it consciously, just realise this in retrospect when I'm trying to work out why I did things/said things I was well aware I shouldn't do.
There's a few points here I guess and I'm interested in answers from INFJs but anyone can discuss if they like:
1) Do you "just know" when someone else has deep issues (on meeting them)?
2) Do you immediately want to mother them or try and fix things even if you know you can't (unconsiously usually, again noted in retrospect)?
3) Do you "feel" like you know how they feel deep inside and what is motivating their bad behaviour (even if you're aware you're hypothesising and could be wrong)
4) In this case I ended up telling him I didn't want to see him again (too much to cope with) he wasn't upset but I've found myself preoccupied with worries for his welfare because he seems "troubled". Anyone else get this?
5) Do you instinctively change your behaviour to emulate or compliment the personality of the person you're with - just noting that I was very out of character around him, also got genuinely upset (sometimes a little too noticeably) because I found the issues/troubles I perceived (perhaps wrongly) in him genuinely frightening.
Like I said, just musing on this as I tend to do this all the time - really worry about someone even if I don't especially like them (he wasn't particularly a nice guy) and wondered if this was something that connected to temperament/personality.
Sorry if this is a long and overcomplicated post!
I went out with a guy at the weekend who I ended up going home with despite knowing he wasn't right (I was drunk, it's my problem, yeah?) End up allowing myself to get involved with people who are wrong for me because I'm attracted to the puzzle of "what's wrong with them". Don't do it consciously, just realise this in retrospect when I'm trying to work out why I did things/said things I was well aware I shouldn't do.
There's a few points here I guess and I'm interested in answers from INFJs but anyone can discuss if they like:
1) Do you "just know" when someone else has deep issues (on meeting them)?
2) Do you immediately want to mother them or try and fix things even if you know you can't (unconsiously usually, again noted in retrospect)?
3) Do you "feel" like you know how they feel deep inside and what is motivating their bad behaviour (even if you're aware you're hypothesising and could be wrong)
4) In this case I ended up telling him I didn't want to see him again (too much to cope with) he wasn't upset but I've found myself preoccupied with worries for his welfare because he seems "troubled". Anyone else get this?
5) Do you instinctively change your behaviour to emulate or compliment the personality of the person you're with - just noting that I was very out of character around him, also got genuinely upset (sometimes a little too noticeably) because I found the issues/troubles I perceived (perhaps wrongly) in him genuinely frightening.
Like I said, just musing on this as I tend to do this all the time - really worry about someone even if I don't especially like them (he wasn't particularly a nice guy) and wondered if this was something that connected to temperament/personality.
Sorry if this is a long and overcomplicated post!