Does this INFJ "talent" make others feel uneasy around you? Do some people hate you because you can read them and bring up hidden motivations?
Definitely. It does have a tendency to make us appear spooky or as "conspiracy" thinkers, as well. But that moment when what you said was happening comes into the light.. it's nothing short of magic.. I think this is another reason we tend to have small, tight knit circles of those we are close to. These are the people who actually believe us.Does this INFJ "talent" make others feel uneasy around you? Do some people hate you because you can read them and bring up hidden motivations?
Ironically, we see through others like glass, while - quite painfully our own intentions & true - genuine feelings are so often misread as wishy washy or disingenuous. This is because we are actually continuously assessing & reevaluating what is right to do in each situation.. and need time to truly process what we're actually feeling deep down. This further compounds when we become frozen, so sfraid to make a mistake that will hurt us or others, especially when we know there's no win / win.. only the lesser of two evils to chose between. I think these things win us lots of unearned enemies..
INTJ Perspective:Does this INFJ "talent" make others feel uneasy around you? Do some people hate you because you can read them and bring up hidden motivations?
INTJ Perspective:
When I figure something out about someone that they're trying to conceal, or see that their front is disingenuous, I have a habit of calling it out - not in a mean way, just in a matter of fact way, and yeah it ruffles feathers. I'm not referring to forum talk here, but mostly real life. So the 'do people hate' part of the question is not really about making people uncomfortable for knowing their motivations, but for saying it out loud and ruining their night.
E.g. Recently someone was humblebragging to me/us (4 person group) about how 'apartments in the [local city] are soooo cheap! Only £1,000 pcm!'. Now, £1,000 is not 'cheap' - a minimum-wage earner in the UK can manage about £400pcm at a stretch. So I said 'Hahaha! A grand isn't fucking cheap, that's crazy talk.' She went red and backtracked, and then had to leave about ten minutes later. She was wealthy, proud of it, and wanted us to know.
P.S. I'm not proud of this by the way, but it's just a compulsion sometimes. It's like my brain goes 'bullshit!', and I'm like 'yeah! I should say it!'
.... Oh I do this too. And it is a compulsion.
Wonder if that's an Fi/Te thing? 'Because what's right is right, damnit don't try to fool me/everyone else!'
Do you mean on 'the couch'?being a psychoanalyst all the time, putting people on "the bench" will make them feel uneasy.
Ehm yeah I guess lol, didn't know the right name of the term.Do you mean on 'the couch'?
So the 'do people hate' part of the question is not really about making people uncomfortable for knowing their motivations, but for saying it out loud and ruining their night.
Precisely. That's what I was saying to OP in 1st response, basically - that this is why we have a small circle of those we are close to.. as those are the ones who accept / believe us. Correct.. the rest can piss off. Easy way to weed out the baddies.For a very long time I had no fucking clue how uneasy I made people on a regular basis.
It definitely does make some people uneasy. For me personally though, those people can fuck right off.
My intentions are good and I am open to discussion, always.
Amen
Yeah, l totally get it. That's why I say to that "Amen".