My boyfriend has tested INTJ with only a 1% T preference and ISTJ. I consider him an INFJ despite him never testing as one. When I first met him I internally typed him as an INFJ. I "saw" his introverted intuition and idealism from a mile away. HOWEVER, he acts very much like an ISTJ in situations that I am not involved in e.g. work & financial matters. He is in the military so that explains why he would appear ISTj-ish. I too am in the military and see from a mile away how the "system" wants me to "drink the kool-aid" and become a good little ESTJ or ISTJ. He disagrees with my kool-aid ramblings when it comes to military life. Is that idealism or just a "duty fulfiller" carrying on his duties? When I read the ISTJ profile I can see the similarities between his personality and overall generic description of an ISTJ. However, when I read a more in depth description of an INFJ--THAT's HIM too! He can be such an idealist "girl"--well he is all the time. I am attracted to that and he has softened my cynical and jaded perspective on people and life- I suppose. He is learning to not become so sensitive to perceived rejection from me or lack of appreciation to his thoughtfulness. Can you INFJ's shed some light on this for me? Do you identify with the ISTJ profile? Are INFJ men afraid of appearing INFJ to the public? Do many INFJ's appear ISTJ on the surface?