Gut feelings. I explore my feelings, and I instinctually just know how deep the relationship is.What characterizes a superficial relationship versus a deep relationship to you?
superficial people want you for fun and adventure and not much out. they just want you to entertain them. deeper relationships can deal with when you aren't being 'fun' and 'entertaining', they understand people have ups and down and they are there for the rollercoaster ride.
That's basically what someone might refer to as 'true love' means to me. It's a conscious decision to accept the other person, all of their talents and all of their flaws, as a package deal.All differences are bridged by an almost complete acceptance of the other, inside and out.
I agree with what Roger said: "According to me, both depends on person's capacity to understand their friend or partner." Because I don't believe that any two people who are willing can have a "deep" relationship. There are only a handful of people I feel like I can have deep relationships with because there are few people that I feel understand me. However, even out of those few, those people have to be willing to invest in the relationship too--if you have the connection but the other person doesn't have the time or desire to invest, it's no good either. I guess that's why I have few friendships that I am truly satisfied with.