nothing is as disgusting for me as verbalizing emotions, feelings should be understood through subtleties, intuitively. if someone can't get it, needs to verbalize their feelings ad nauseum, then it's infeasible.
INFJs tend to be more direct, though we hate conflict. So we won't give you any signals until we're ready to be direct with you.
INFP, if I'm not mistaken (and any INFPs, feel free to correct me) hate conflict as well, but they *know* how they feel about the situation before INFJs do. They just don't like being direct because (maybe) they believe the other person should've picked up on how they feel because they already feel it themselves.
Which is why there can be a lot of disconnect between an INFP and an INFJ when conflict occurs; the INFP really expects the INFJ to feel what they're going through immediately, but we can't. We have to process the emotion first. Either that, or we're going to intuitively pick it up *eventually* through Ni...but we'll only know something's wrong. We won't know exactly what's wrong until we filter it through out other cognitive functions, though.
We can get caught off-guard that way; especially if we assume we're right and we know the right direction to take, but the INFP has unconsciously disagreed with us.
They just don't like being direct because (maybe) they believe the other person should've picked up on how they feel because they already feel it themselves.
nothing is as disgusting for me as verbalizing emotions, feelings should be understood through subtleties, intuitively. if someone can't get it, needs to verbalize their feelings ad nauseum, then it's infeasible.
I totaly agree! verbalized emotions are disgusting because what you can tell someone is nothing more than a shadow of the emotion. Emotions should be understood intuitively. I can say I'm sad but it doesn't mean anything until the other person tries to step into your shoes to understand how you feel
I totaly agree! verbalized emotions are disgusting because what you can tell someone is nothing more than a shadow of the emotion. Emotions should be understood intuitively. I can say I'm sad but it doesn't mean anything until the other person tries to step into your shoes to understand how you feel
I do want to point out that the assumption that you shouldn't have to communicate how you feel leaves others with no ability to meet your expectations. As long as you're okay with that, then you don't have to. But, if you need people to understand where you are coming from, what you want, and most importantly what you expect, then you have to tell them.
I do want to point out that the assumption that you shouldn't have to communicate how you feel leaves others with no ability to meet your expectations. As long as you're okay with that, then you don't have to. But, if you need people to understand where you are coming from, what you want, and most importantly what you expect, then you have to tell them.
I do want to point out that the assumption that you shouldn't have to communicate how you feel leaves others with no ability to meet your expectations. As long as you're okay with that, then you don't have to. But, if you need people to understand where you are coming from, what you want, and most importantly what you expect, then you have to tell them.
+1. I agree wholeheartedly. Tell me. I despise guessing games, have a very poor understanding of body language or coded language of any sort. Speak directly. I do understand this notion that words cannot adequately express feelings but English words are the language I speak most fluently. Sure it's frightening but it's efficient and I'm never offended, generally relieved, to have things come into the open. Pressuring me to learn to communicate in a way that I have not been able to master despite a lifetime of trying seems selfish so I would have to walk.
if you would ask me to translate my emotions into the english language you also asks me to communicate in a way that I have not been able to master efficiently. So that is selfish too...
besides body language is the oldest language on this planet, the most accurate and the most instinctive of them all.
so this may be the key of the problem. Some people are better in communicating in spoken language while others are better in body language/intuition and that makes it for both parties hard to communicate with oneanother
...body language is the oldest language on this planet, the most accurate and the most instinctive of them all.