How would you describe some differences between the dating mentality you had when you were younger, probably high-school/young adult ages, and a more mature take on love that may have come with time/experience?
Or, perhaps better put, have there been many differences?
How does INFJ take on relationships change over the years? Is this the same as many other types, or do INFJs approach love/dating differently even from a young age?
(I put an age range in the post to clarify what I mean, but interpret the words young vs. mature as you will. Age can be pretty meaningless.)
Love is just.... love. You love someone, and you behave accordingly. Simple. (Sorry, I honestly don't get all the work/sacrifice/old/young stuff...) It's not torture, it's fun, actually, at least that's been my experience.
Maybe it gets a little less obsessive as you get older, and less about sex maybe, I suppose it does, and there are usually more responsibilities, and you focus more on practical things and less on silly manipulative games. Less drama as you get older,
usually, which is refreshing.
P.S. To explain better, Work: dragging your ass out of bed at 4:30 in the morning to do things you don’t particularly want to do and be around people you don’t particularly want to be around, and do it all for a paycheck or some kind of compensation.
Love, at any age:
FALLING IN LOVE IS LIKE OWNING A DOG
First of all, it's a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York.
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you're walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain't no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?
On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!
Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.
