However, I am speaking of the need for parents to micromanage small children's behavior. It is bad parenting. It is harmful. Yet everyday, you can see small instances of parent's who seek to force their small children to "be still"--"be quiet"--"shut up"--"quit fidgiting" and such when such behavior isn't really wrong and just a natural part of being a small child. Political rants aside, I was just pointing out a difference in parenting that I did not experience as a child from my parents.
Not trying to take this out of context, but what tends to get on my nerves are parents that won't do such things when the behavior is obviously disruptive. For instance, there's this little stir fry place in my area that I visit just about every other weekend for a nice, mid-afternoon lunch. The way it works is you build your dish and take it to the grill for it to be cooked. A line forms, and the cooks keep track of the dishes so the wrong dish doesn't go to the wrong person. Even then, it happens from time to time, but that doesn't usually result in anything drastic as adults realize when a dish isn't theirs.
Now, last weekend, there was this little girl that kept running up and down the line. She cut in between so many people, that she actually ended up grabbing my dish instead of hers. Now, because I make my dishes super super hot (as in spicy), I could have done one of two things:
1. Let the parent, who was standing next to me, know that his daughter had taken my dish instead of hers and let the parent do as little as possible to correct his daughter.
2. Ignored it, take the daughter's dish, and let her learn the hard way why there's supposed to be proper behaviors in public areas.
Since I'm not a dick, I went ahead and let the parent know. He quickly got a hold of his daughter, didn't make her apologize or anything, and returned my dish back to me.
Now, this situation could have been avoided by either not taking her to a restaurant like this, or by simply supervising her and being a parent. I would prefer that parents exercise more control over their children (which isn't saying much at all, given how little control I observe parents exercising these days), as my parents did with me, because I feel that, otherwise, the children grow up to be brats, even when they reach adulthood.
Unfortunately, this isn't the only experience that comes to mind when I think of why parents need to be more strict with their children. This is just one of the more recent ones that actually disrupted my day.