Chemistry has always been a curious thing to me. What is it that makes two people click instantly?
A mixture of small things that makes it pretty random, I think.
It might be how you talk. What you talk about. How much you talk.
How you look, smell, appear.
Or it could be your mind. The shape of your mind, the depth, the areas it touches, the things it knows and is interested with.
Your heart. The feelings, the emotions, the passions; their patterns, shape, structure, strength.
Your spirit. Optimism, realism, outlook on life.
Your wisdom. Experience, knowledge, lessons, perspective.
Or as @
charlene said, aura.
Really, for me it's about the totality of one person reacting with the other.
And we tend to see 'chemistry' in one specific way (usually either platonic or romantic or somewhat beyond in a soul-matey way), but thinking about it I think we reacted to one another in one way or another...and the reactions are various. I might feel comfortable with you but the beating of the heart wants the other person. Meanwhile my mind is excited by another.
Sometimes we have people with which an intense chemistry are created in various areas of life, where the compatibility and reaction it creates are intense, strong, everlasting. That tend to be the chemistry people tend to imply.
What do you think facilitates good rapport and what does it depend on?
Personally it's a mixture of everything. I tend to emotionally gravitate (either crush, or interest) towards sensory elements (sight/smell, a.k.a people who look good and people who smell good).
But after I went there...it's all about the inside. The heart, the mind, the spirit. Their wisdom and outlook. Let's say, looking at the finer details.
Do you think chemistry is something that you can build or fake?
.....those who can are probably masters in it, let's just say it like that.
I think you can, but....a) I think when you try to replicate the intensity and/or sophistication in a pair with a strong chemistry...that's not an easy job. I'd wager the person would be changed as a result (think people who changed themselves to attract a certain person), and b) if that's the case, is it worth the effort?
Have you noticed a pattern in the type of people you build chemistry with? What is your experience with it?
Two parts.
One-sided chemistry (a,k.a crush) usually is started by sight or smell. But after that it's free game.
BUt Two-sided chemistry usually feels...comfortable? Yet thrilling? Like I can sit down and lay back and enjoy my time with this person, but I WANT TO KNOW MORE DANGIT.