Did you ever hate someone but were intensely attracted to them at the same time? Did things progress with that person and become friendlier or did you still hate them?
What are your reasons for hating this person?
If you are wondering if things can ever become friendlier between the two of you, then the answer is simple; of course they can. Just as long as both parties are willing to forgive and let go.
I can only assume that he hates you too, because if you were the only one doing the hating, then you would have the power to fix this easily; don't hate him and be nice!
But asking this question makes me think that you don't hate him at all. You are open to the idea of making nice. So why does he hate you so much?
Whatever the reason may be, I think one possible reason a person would lust after someone they hate or that hates them is "control". You know that you can't control him and his negative feelings towards you and this may bother you if you are the type of gal that likes to be in charge of the show. But it also may turn you on at the same time. He has moxy.
So maybe you don't even want him like that...maybe, what you really want is to control this uncontrollable man...you want dominance over him. At least through sex with him, you could feel like you have the power during the act.
Sex is a very powerful weapon, especially in a woman's hands. This is what some women will resort to when they have no other hand to play in getting a man to bend to them. But, I could be totally off. Just a theory to think about.
Anyway, I think that it is unhealthy to feel this way about him and it leans towards self-destructive behavior. If I ever felt this way about a person I hated, then I would probably talk to a therapist to find out why I felt this way so that I could fix what was broken inside.
I think you realize that it's wrong, but now you need to look inside yourself to find out why you feel this way. Good luck!