HenRick said:I alway feel bad when going to the mall like I don't belong in the world.
When I mean I don't belong it's because I'm usually the only one thinking about not belonging there. Maybe if I brought a friend we could suffer together. :mrgreen: ....noVivi16 said:HenRick said:I alway feel bad when going to the mall like I don't belong in the world.
It's interesting that you said this. I'm the same way...but what's weird is i LOVE fashion. I browse online stores all the time (Nordstrom, Bebe, Arden B, Bloomingdales, you name it..I'm there) and I do most of my shopping for clothes online. I feel free that way. At a mall, I feel like I'm being swallowed up by something bigger than me. I hate the way I feel when I'm there. I feel like I'm going to die of anxiety, I want to run from sales people (and I used to work in high end retail sales myself!), and I just overall feel uncomfortable in the environment of a mall.
But what do you mean you feel like you don't belong in the world when you're there? When you leave, do you instantly feel differently? I'm always relieved when I'm out of the mall. I don't like to go to the mall and browse. I mostly avoid it like the plague and only go if I absolutely need something.
I also hate fast food and feel disgusting and guilty if I eat it...which is close to never!! My coworkers eat fast food a lot and I'm repulsed by it.
Stone said:What's the most negative example of an INFJ you've encountered?
If you're an INFJ, how do you act when under a lot of pressure/stress?
alcyone said:I function very well under stress in most situations.
But after the stressors have gone and the pressure is offa bit, I NEED to shut down for a while. I usually put my nose in a book, or two or seven and shut everything out to decompress.
Yuck malls!
However, I can spend hours and hours in a bookstore, library, or pet store. I love watch the fish and playing with the parrots!
entyqua said:I too really hate watching the news because i feel an inherent need to fix everything and then i get lost in the how and get very depressed and hopeless!
And I too am completely overwhelmed by my emotions!
There was a major story here a couple of years ago about a man who killed a child and hid her body in the basement in a storage container for a week!! Sadly I was friends with his wife and my daughter was over there a few times....this scared me to no end! My emotions and thoughts ran away from me and all I could do was grieve for that little girl but also ponder over and over how close i put my child to danger....It could have been her...And this is a story of my emotions taking over....And this is another reason why i don't watch news anymore!
SoraKage said:entyqua said:I too really hate watching the news because i feel an inherent need to fix everything and then i get lost in the how and get very depressed and hopeless!
And I too am completely overwhelmed by my emotions!
There was a major story here a couple of years ago about a man who killed a child and hid her body in the basement in a storage container for a week!! Sadly I was friends with his wife and my daughter was over there a few times....this scared me to no end! My emotions and thoughts ran away from me and all I could do was grieve for that little girl but also ponder over and over how close i put my child to danger....It could have been her...And this is a story of my emotions taking over....And this is another reason why i don't watch news anymore!
You said it better than I could. It's amazing how empathetic we can get. It sometimes feels that I have no control over my emotions. That it's the people around me, that I feel. I have issues with the mall too, or with any place where there is a significant amount of people. It is just too overwhelming when I desire to read people, there is too many to attempt to read. It causes more stress than ever.
Stone said:I definitely relate to the mall thing, my fiance is ESFJ so of course for her it's therapeutic. I'm like you Sumone I have to psych myself up for it, so when my fiance surprises me with a spontaneous "lets go to the mall!" I sort of freak out a bit.
If I know I'm going well ahead of time I don't mind so much and mostly spend time observing the behaviour of the mindless consumer drones...
Heh, I wonder how THEY base their opinions.HenRick said:My sister is a ESFJ so she bases here opinion on close completely on her friends.