I believe the notion of the one is a myth and fairytale. A manifestation of idealism created to combat the reality of how difficult relationships can be. I also believe it is one of our biggest stumbling blocks that prevent us from finding meaningful and powerful relationships full of sincere understanding, commitment and growth. I have noticed that within myself and others, when a relationship doesn’t work out, we have a tendency to cope by saying, “I haven’t found the one”.
Part of why I believe it is a myth and the wrong thing we should look for is because we are not static beings. We are ever evolving which means the perfect person for us at 20, might not be the perfect person for us at 30, 40, 50, etc… We also grow at different speeds within relationships meaning that compatibility is very important but I think communication is a greater opportunity for happiness. If we cannot communicate our ever changing and growing needs, we will be doomed to having to find a new “one” every few years or so when our needs, wants and desires inevitably evolve.
Of course, this is not to say that we aren’t more compatible with certain individuals but that compatibility is just one piece of the puzzle and without communication, it is not likely to succeed. This is all my take on this but I was curious as to what people here think?
Part of why I believe it is a myth and the wrong thing we should look for is because we are not static beings. We are ever evolving which means the perfect person for us at 20, might not be the perfect person for us at 30, 40, 50, etc… We also grow at different speeds within relationships meaning that compatibility is very important but I think communication is a greater opportunity for happiness. If we cannot communicate our ever changing and growing needs, we will be doomed to having to find a new “one” every few years or so when our needs, wants and desires inevitably evolve.
Of course, this is not to say that we aren’t more compatible with certain individuals but that compatibility is just one piece of the puzzle and without communication, it is not likely to succeed. This is all my take on this but I was curious as to what people here think?